by Jamie Gem
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Today
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s 20. Also going to college. Slim/fit, he works out and packs muscle that is noticeable when flexed. Few inches taller than me and im 5’3. Funny thing, I met him on Tinder, I was on Tinder for the fuck of it, not really serious about it.. We matched and he messaged me. We started chatting on there and he eventually asked for social media then my number. I eventually deleted Tinder because I wasn’t interested in it as initially. So we talked about a lot of things, and eventually it got sexual. He invited me over and we pretty much made it clear what we were down to do. I was super nervous that morning as I got ready and as good looking as possible. When I got there, we talked about a few things, past relationships and sexual history (our past circumstances were practically the same!)
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began in his room. I entered his place. We had talked about sex, and eventually about doing it with each other beforehand through phone and I sent him some pictures. So when we met and were inside his room, we knew where things were going to go. He instigated the sex.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We did vaginal. He sucked on my nipples, kissed me, smacked my butt, and tongued my clit a bit. I very much liked it all because he was very dominant, and knew how to move me and position me. That was something new for me, something I always wanted my ex boyfriend to do. Anyway, he was very sweet and understanding if I was uncomfortable at any point, and very communicative through out it. So once my pants, well leggings were pulled off, he put on a condom and penetrated me to my surprise he was very big, (also something new to me). It was painful a bit at first, the good kind of pain, because im tight. I was taken by surprise because while I waited there, I didnt or couldnt really look at his package size. He was a very good lover, to my surprise because of his age and inexperience. He came in me and stayed inside for a long time because he unloaded a lot and was just kind of explaining it to me why he was still inside. We then did it again. We kissed through out it also, and hugged and there was just a lot of sexual compatibility and connection.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I decided to leave home, he offered a bite to eat before though. I was kind of in pain from his size. I feel great about it, he was the best i’ve had so far. It was the best first casual sex experience, I feel lucky lol. He mentioned that I should keep coming over in the future to watch movies, which I am totally up for because of this experience. I expect to continue seeing him and having fun. I don’t have high hopes like marriage or him becoming the love of my life, but who knows. He’s very sweet and interesting as a person.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Noone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His big penis LOL. As well as his gentleman ness but ability to take control in bed.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I feel empowered, I don’t think of casual sex as something bad. We are consenting adults in our state and it was an extremely fun, pleasurable experience.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I believe that as long as people are sure of what they are doing and preventing the spread of health risks, then it’s all good. However, I don’t think people should use sex to fill some kind of void in them or as something that should take too high of priority in their lives.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like the website!
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