What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA Cleveland Ohio
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Quality Control
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? None
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Crazy Married Affair
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? long term affair
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Met him on Ashley Madison. Met once for drinks. Messed around in car afterwards. He did oral on me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Started on Ashley Madison. He initiated it. I was hesitant to meet at first.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was about a 2 to 3 hour sexual escapade at a hotel. There was oral and he also performed rimmiing. Sexual intercourse was all different positions.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We continued to hook up at hotels, parks for almost 3 years on and off. Sometimes I felt fulfilled and other times I felt dirty.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A friend, who laughed and told me to stay away from married men.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because he was married and it made me feel dirty, but another part of me liked it and wanted more.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? More sexual experience and positions were tried.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It felt dirty.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? not sure.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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