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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Unknown
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Cruising the Gym

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is in his mid 30s with reddish hair. He is in pretty good shape but definitely not a bodybuilder or serious athlete. He had a peculiar tan line in the middle of his upper arm and mid thigh. I found out later that he is a semi serious cyclist. His pecs were nicely defined. His abdomen was a little soft, but definitely sexy. Naturally hairless. I would say that he was about 5’10” and 170 pounds.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My gym has several different equipment areas. One room is all cardio and weight resistance machines. One room is all free weights. And another room has a small selection of free weights and resistance machines. I was in the smallest room doing some bicep curls when I first saw him. I couldn’t tell right away that he was cruising me. I would do a set and then lean on a machine for a brief rest and look at my phone. I had never seen him before and thought he was pretty cute. He asked someone if they were still using a bench. Then he and I made eye contact. He left the room, and I finished my set and walked down the stairs towards the cardio machines. I ran into him in the stairwell, and he asked me if there was a pec fly machine. I knew then that he was flirting with me, because there was a fly machine in the room where I first saw him. Of course, there is another one downstairs, so I walked with him to personally show him. I went about my workout and headed for the showers. There he was eyeing me up and down. I rinsed off and headed to the sauna. He followed me and we started a conversation. He said he noticed quite a bit of cruising at the gym and in the locker room. Then he asked me if I would like to go to his hotel for some porn and a handjob. After some more conversation I agreed. I drove to the gym, and he walked. So we rode together in my car.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we got into his hotel room we immediately started kissing. He asked me what I am comfortable with, and I told him pretty much everything up to anal sex. I said that I was in a vanilla mood and that I would love kissing, rubbing, jerking, and full body contact. He sounded excited and said that was great. We kissed some more and undressed each other. He invited me to lie on the bed. We took turns being on top of each other while continuing to kiss. He complimented me several times saying how hot my body is. He said that he likes the little bit of fur on my chest, that I have nice pecs, and that I have a great ass. He asked if he could look at my asshole, then he made a sound like, “mmmmm”. I was very excited and was completely enjoying the encounter so far. He licked my nipples and made his way down to my cock. It felt great and made me feel like I would come. I stopped him because I didn’t want to come yet. Then I returned the favor. We went back to kissing and he got on top of me. We rubbed together for a few minutes and then he asked if I would like to go ahead and come. I told him to go for it. We came like that within a few seconds of each other. Then we just lay on the bed for a few minutes with all our limbs entangled. We had small talk and complimented each other about how nice that was. Then we took a shower together, got dressed and I left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? As I was leaving he told me that he would definitely be interested in a repeat performance, and that it depended on how long he would be in town. He gave me an email address and told me to contact him if I were going to have some free time. I later emailed him and told him I would be interested in doing it again. He never responded. A few days I saw him at the gym again when I was on my way out. We made small talk and said goodbye as I left. To this day he still has never responded. It was hot, and I sometimes think about the encounter when I jack off. But I’m not really disappointed that he didn’t reply.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The excitement of a completely random hookup. It was exhilarating to be cruised at the gym and have someone so assertively proposition me.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I very much enjoy casual sex. It’s exciting. It’s a great stress reliever. As long as people are making responsible choices.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoy reading some of the stories, and I hope it can help to educate the general public.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!