by Denise

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Usa
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Curiosity Caught the Cat

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a white guy several years older than me. We met online on an adult website years ago and became FWB. We both wanted a sex partner as we were not being fulfilled at home. I wanted to experience a white guy. That was 7 years ago. We see each other 2-3 times per month and have both developed deep feelings for each other.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He texted me the night before that we could have breakfast in the morning. That morning we met at a coffee shop. We ate, talked, and laughed early in the morning while curious young white guys who worked there watched us.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I wore a cute frilly skirt with no panties. He had to leave so as he kissed me goodbye while I was in my vehicle showed him my kitty. He was shocked that I didn’t have on panties and got in the passengers side. We drive around to the back of a building and I laid out a blanket in the back of my vehicle. He was excited! I sucked on him and he loved it. I got on top and grinded, then he got on top and fucked me really good.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We talked, kissed, I dropped him off to his vehicle and we both left. I was happy to see him and he was happy to see me. We enjoy each other’s company and have great chemistry. We expect to see each other again this week.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fantastic deeply penetrating sex, running my fingers through his hair, watching him enter me, kissing him, fulfilling a fantasy, the excitement of having sex in a vehicle, watching our bodies come together with contrasting colors cuz I’m dark brown and he’s got white skin, it’s amazing!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I can’t take him home.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, that I’m a freak for my man!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little positive

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’ve always wanted to be with a white guy since I was a young person so it’s a huge turn on to now experience it. He’s a great guy that I can’t get enough of.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish casual sex and interracial sex wasn’t such a taboo. When it comes down to the bedroom action, it’s just a man and a woman enjoying intimacy and as long as they consent it should be ok. I wish society did not regard open relationships as such an evil thing. Casual sex is something I never participated in until I was much older. It has its pros and cons.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Shows that people are much freakier than they let on lol. Very eye opening.

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