Age: 38/22 Then
Current location: Columbus, OH
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Physical Therapist/Personal Trainer
Relationship status: In a Comitted One
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Bisexual with a preference for men
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? One
How long ago did this hookup happen? Sixteen Years
How would you best classify this hookup? Booty Call
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was an older gentlemen in his forties, a bit of a beard and long hair and tattoos. I’ll call him Don. I met him at a bar and had been hooking up with him for a while.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was just out of the Army which honestly had not been a great place for someone discovering her sexuality and trying to learn what it is to be bisexual. I spent much of my time in the Army sleeping with a superior. I was quite used to a structured and rigid environment and was looking to cut loose.
I started going to this bar where a local biker club hung out. They weren’t the most law abiding group but we are hardly talking Sons of Anarchy level guys either. I spent a few months with them, slept with a few of the guys and was passed around a bit. I was ok with it. Don, one of the officers of the club took quite a liking to me and I was screwing him a lot.
One evening Don had been drinking a bit and pulled me into a private room in the back.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Don locked the door and we took our clothes off. He sat in a chair and had me straddle him and he played with my breasts a little and sucked on them. He then penetrated me and grabbed my hips and had me bounce up and down until he came inside me. It only took him about five minutes and he was never long but I was always sweet about it. Afterwards we put our clothes on and returned to the bar. We didn’t really talk much.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Don did and I didn’t
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I didn’t and I missed some of my birth control during this time as well. At some point during these few months I got pregnant.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was young and horny and wanted to
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I had two beers, not sure how much Don had to drink
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I spent about another two months or so with the club, mostly sleeping with Don. When I discovered I was pregnant I made a few hard choices and cut ties with the club and moved away and had my son eight months later. I am not sure, but since I mostly was sleeping with Don I am assuming he is my son’s father As for Don, I heard he was killed in a traffic accident a few years later.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have never really told anyone the exact circumstances of my son’s conception just that it was during a wild phase in my youth.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes it was for both of us
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? My son no I do not, but I do regret cutting loose so much that I wasn’t careful
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I would say my son, I love him dearly. Worst part was as looking back I am not very proud of myself but I did exactly as I wanted, i cut loose. As for casual sex and sexuality I have always been very religious and methodical about my birth control and using protection.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? There is a typo in my first post, I am 38 not 28. Wish I was still 28