by Viking

Gender: Male
Age: 29
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: Ontario, Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Education
Relationship status: Complicated
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Non-exclusive
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Dangerous And Magnetic

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Short fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on the road biking into a music festival. There was an instant magnetism of attraction. She had that french canadian allure and I was quite taken by her wavy dark hair, gentle curves and playful air. I later found out she was 32.

I eased up on the flirting when I found out she was looking for her kids bikes so she could lock up her bike with her family’s. I have been a 3rd in an open or polyamourous situation before and I wasn’t sure how available she was. Though we did flirt when I ran into her again at the festival.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She tracked me down a month later through twitter. We exchanged texts that were obviously flirty and met up that night for in the parking lot of a splash pad for a “walk in the park.”

She invited me into her SUV because it was “too cold outside.” I could read the writing on the wall here and through our flirty conversation I realized that though she wasn’t married and her situation with her long time man was not traditional it was clear that he was not aware or would condone us hooking up. My head was warmly clouded with arousal and I considered that it wouldn’t be too bad if we just kissed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I turned her chin to me and we kissed with rising passion. We both knew that we were experienced and talented lovers. We remained clothed, but our hands wondered freely. I found my way into her shirt to tease her nipples with fingers and lips. She was putty in my hands and I had her purring as she had me moaning. A while after she had shifted to sit in my lap we decided we needed to cool off and go for a walk. It was frequently interrupted by making out and at one point I pulled her down as I laid in the grass as we grinded together.

As we returned from the walk I pulled her into me and lifted her on top of me as a lean back on my hood. She had a orgasm from the friction as I held her in my lap.

Though I felt unsure about it, I was so aroused and drawn to her. A few days later we exchanged risky pictures and texts over BBM (for privacy – which made if feel all the badder). In the evening we met up at a lake as the sun was setting. We sat talking the implications of this and how it shouldn’t continue. We kissed. It got passionate. I took her pants off and she rode me – me in my boxers, her in her thong. Then we went skinny dipping and laid together naked on a blanket.

The whole evening had intermittent bouts of heavy arousal and lust mixed with tender cuddling and sharing. At one point she was standing, naked beside me and I leaned her over and pulled her back into my eager tongue. I gave her an oral orgasm. At two points she teased me with extraordinary oral for a few minutes at a time. I gave her a second orgasm with my hand as she sat across my lap.

She suggested that we take it to a hotel room another night as she was worried about being caught. I was hesitant because part of me didn’t want it to carry on and screw up her family life.

As we left, I huskily told her I wanted to do very bad things with her. She purred and emphatically agreed.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? She had one the first night and came while I fingered her the second night. I had none, but was not unsatisfied with the whole thing.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No discussion of STIs. I had condoms with me, but no protection was used as there was penetrative sex.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Excitement, escape. I felt drawn to her and she was so intoxicating. The power and affirmation I felt in her attraction was hard to turn down.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Nothing the first time. We shared one beer the second time at the lake.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She wanted one more meeting to have sex and I suggested calling it off. A conversation we agreed on. She had fooled around before, but only had sex with her man for the last 8 years. I had never been the other man in an affair.

There was so much pleasure, excitement but also I felt more than a little ashamed after the first time. I have an open relationship with a mother and love her kid. I don’t think I could easily live with breaking up someone else’s family. I wanted to meet up a second time to ensure things ended smoothly, but of course it got sexual before we agreed to part ways.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only one friend who saw me just before I met up with her. I will tell my partner who I’m in an open relationship with.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual and wanted for both.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No… I know now that I would have had major regrets if we had penetrative sex.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I had a situation years ago where I ended up naked in a hot tub with a woman who was just about to break up with her boyfriend. I couldn’t bring myself to connect with her and struggled with my integrity. After that I did some soul searching and came to peace with being open to connecting in that way… but I know now that I couldn’t do it if kids were involved. I don’t want to mess with that.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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