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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Berlin
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

dangerous kinky sex with a guy never met before

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 1/2 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? he was slightly smaller than me, 10 years older, very small dick (which I obviously did not know before).

I met him on tinder the other (or even same – I cannot really recall) day on tinder and right before the hookup I was a little scared, but I did it anyway for the experience

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? we planned over the app to meet at his place (apartment in a bigger German city) – he was to blindfold me and lead me inside.

I had a friend as backup who should phone the police and send them over to the guy’s address, if I didn’t write to my friend before midnight.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? during the hookup we had vaginal intercourse, but more important was the BDSM style play (involving being tied up, hit and toys used on me) we engaged in. And as long as that was taking place everything was fine, but I did not feel anything of him penetrating me with his penis – therefore he offered me anal, which I politely declined. That killed the rest of atmosphere there was. He removed the blindfolds and his condom. We talked a little about the foreplay until he posed the question what the problem had been to which I responded: “You have a really small dick” – he: “Is that a problem for you?” I thought for a moment if the efoort would be worth it and decided it was not. “Yes.” He: “Then we should not do this again. Do you want to take a shower?” Me: “Yes, thank you”
I showered took my clothes and left. We never met again.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I thought and still think it is a funny story, I probably will mot do anything alike again. I was open for a possible future as a fuckbuddy type relationship with the guy before hooking (which he voiced clearly to be his goal anyway before). I have not seen him since and hope that he found someone else.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? we agreed upon the terms before – and I was gagged most of the time, so voicing consent was not entirely possible during

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? see above – he dominated me and since I could not move freely I hope he did what he wanted

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? some friends who thought it funny to do stuff like that and questioned my sanity in the process

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? the experience of hooking up with someone – having him never met in person before and not seeing him until after sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? unfortunately, the penetration

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? He and I were both relatively freshly out of a long term relationship – maybe that is important to know. So, we were more or less on the same level.
Apart from hat I would like to mention that I do not think that penetrative sex with him must be bad, but I did not want to invest time in something that was not meant to be a relationship anyway – and improving his techniques would have taken too long for my casual interest in sex at that time.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t think it is bad and never thought it to be. I wish everybody felt like that, because sex is so much fun.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is a cool project and I will probably write another story sometime again.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!