What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 49
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Japan
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Professor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Department Store Quickie
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Semi-unplanned hookup
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I wrote to him on a gay app because although I wasn’t really looking for a hookup at the time, he was unusually handsome. He wrote back immediately, we had a really good chat, and traded photos.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Neither one of us had time to hookup, but the attraction was so strong, we decided just to meet in person after work the next day. We met outside a busy train station, bought drinks from a vending machine, and sat down to talk. The physical attraction between us was crazy. We both had hardons and he kept reaching down to pull the leg hairs between my sock and pant leg. At that point, we weren’t even talking just staring at each other. I said that I wanted to fuck him but had to leave in 15 minutes- but that I would go crazy if I didn’t get to at least kiss him. He suggested going into a toilet stall of a nearby posh department store. So we did.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It’s a bit of a blur exactly what happened after we closed and locked the stall door, but we made out so hard I could taste a little blood. We took off our shirts, took out our cocks, and he stuffed my entire cock down his throat. I came very quickly, he swallowed my entire load, and we made out again while he jacked off into the toilet.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both felt great after the hookup and immediately made plans to meet again. We have amazing sex about twice a month, but it’s clear that it’s purely physical. I’m in a committed open relationship and he is in the country for only a temporary time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t told anyone about it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The chemistry/mutual attraction was incredibly high.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing was bad.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’m glad to know that I can still find people who excite me this much.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s too complicated to write everything I think about it, but casual sex is both good/bad and affects each person completely differently. Personally, I use it for both pleasure and as a way to learn about myself and other people.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Important and interesting!
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