What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? Indian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India, Mumbai
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Writer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Vaguely spiritual. Academically interested in Christianity and Hinduism,
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Matched on tinder. He was foreign, exotic, seemed romantic because he wanted to meet for dinner first. I had just asked my partner for an open relationship, and he agreed. I had only had one other casual sex experience before, years prior to this, so his offer of a dinner date felt reassuring.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I made it clear I was not looking for something serious and he seemed game. Still, on the way over in the cab I imagined all the things that could go wrong in vivid, horrifying detail. What if he had a crazy fetish, or thirty friends hiding in a closet, or hit me with a blunt object and left me for dead on the side of the road? What if he recorded me on his phone camera and uploaded it to a porn website? I dutifully rehearsed my aghast and sorrowful expressions when my family was confronted with the reality that their daughter was a loose woman with few boundaries and fewer brain cells.
We had a nice dinner. After three gin and tonics I was less concerned about the different weapons he might have stashed under his bed and more interested in seeing him naked. So we took a cab back to the hotel he was staying at, stopping only to pick up a bottle of wine on the way.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He was put up at a 5 star hotel so the most comfortable bed I’ve been in in a while! After a glass of wine I felt even better… Looser and more comfortable with being sensual. He was an ok kisser, scratchy stubble and an eager mouth. Not massively attractive as conventional looks go but not unpleasant either, just eager. And warm.
Very keen to just get down to it now that we were finally alone.
It had been a while since I’d had a proper fuck. So I needed a bit of stretching out but once we got going it was absolutely lovely. Good, old fashioned sex. Vaginal. Nothing kinky. No oral because I try not to go down on guys who won’t go down on me, one of those places where my politics interfere with fun :/.
I was very tired after, more from work stress and because sex in general tends to relax me, especially when coupled with wine. But I was turned on so we went two more times. I faked orgasm thrice, until he fingered me and I had this absolutely phenomenal long orgasm that ironically enough I think he was convinced was fake haha.
He kept begging for a bj, and asking if he was the best I’d ever had, which got a bit annoying after a while but I was grateful for the good fuck so too polite to contradict. I also let him cum on my breasts, not the safest I know, and not something I enjoyed, but he was so petulant after the no bj rule I felt bad, and was too tired to protest.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was exhausted, and wanted nothing more than to sleep. But I wasn’t going to get any sleep in a strangers bed and all my apprehensions from earlier in the night flooded back now that my wet pussy wasn’t being such a distraction. (Pun unintended)
So I strapped on my bra and pulled my jeans back up, called a cab, and stumbled home. Getting dressed… Walking out…. It felt strange, and empowering. The next day when I sat down to pee I felt the burn and it felt sooo good I’d forgotten how much I missed good sex. I felt satisfied.
Until the dick pics started. On average 3 a day. Every day. I told him politely I was at work and it was inappropriate but I was happy he was having fun. Didn’t make any difference. Finally muted him on what’s app and steadily ignored him.
Ended up texting him one bored and lonely night two weeks ago and hooked up with I him again. Had been with another guy the night before you couldn’t get hard at the last minute and I needed the ego boost. Figured dick pic expat who could get it up three times a day like clockwork would do the trick.
Still a reliable fuck buddy who I know I would call on again. I just wish he’d stop texting me. Every day. Multiple angles. Photos of his dick :/
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend. She was impressed that I left.. Said she’d never heard of a girl do that. Thought it was cool. That felt pretty good haha
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sexual release
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cumming on my breasts might have been unsafe….
And the annoying constant dick pics. I have a whole library now. Just his. It’s ridiculous.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me more confident that I could do it again and disconnect emotionally in a healthy way.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Still figuring that one out
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it! Sounds awesome!
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