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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 21
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 3

Dirty Friend of My Roommate

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was (or is) a fuck buddy of my roommate. I’ve just moved in on December 2015. I’ve seen her like 3 times before while she was visiting my roommate. We talked a bit and she is one of those people who gets very easily emotional and attached, somehow, hugging and spreading the love. I’m not being cynical but she exaggerates a bit, in my point of view. Early 20s, healthy figure, everything fine. You might thing she’s a bit on the simple side, but I’m still not sure about that.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She came over on a Saturday night pretty late. Me and my roommate already had a few drinks and were pretty drunk. She arrived, we talked a bit and she talked about how much likes hugging and cuddling me, since my roommate doesn’t do that. I was quite drunk at that point and told her she could come over, when they’re done. I went to my room. She came over about 30 minutes later. I was in my bed doing things on my phone. I was not too responsive to her moves and asked her if she and my roommate were already finished. Anyways, she began cuddling, caressing me, making her way down to my dick.  Then she took it out and gave me a good blowjob. I was just about to move into the action when she told me she had to go back to my roomie. I was left quite irritated. I went to bed sometime after that. Just guessing, but it must have been around 1-2 a.m. She comes back arounf 8 in the morning.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was sleeping and she must have made some moves to wake me. I sleep with ear pads. Anyways, she came over to cuddle, so I agreed. That led to making out, which made me hard.  I performed oral on her, she gave me head. I put on a condom and we fucked in missionary, some doggystyle, she rode me as well and she came. I finished in missonary in her. It was good (I’m just not into writing porn stories).

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was morning and she left our flat pretty fast. I told her it was alright if she stayed over but I think she felt quite dirty. She asked me to not talk to my roomie about it, so I didn’t. He approached about this a few days later, since she told him by herself. He was cool with it, I was alright about it, but we shortly talked about her, since we both think she has some self-esteem issues and is very needy when it comes to carnal attention. He asked me if I used protection, which I did, and  told me to keep doing so if it ever happened again. She’s not been over that often since. My roomie is unemployed, she’s a student and I work full-time. If she’d been over, it would have been during the week and I left our talks quite soon to leave them two by themselves, but she has since come over less. I feel like I should give a big hug to let her know that everything’s fine with her, my roomie, and me. She might have issues, but I don’t judge. Even though the sex was fine I will most probably won’t have sex with her.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, To cheer myself up, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My roommate

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? It might have changed the dynamics for her visiting our flat.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was pretty good.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Interpersonal stuff

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Pretty unexpected.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Living’ it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like reading the other stories. I’m struggeling with the idea of monogamy. Interchanging stories from any background, position, gender, whatsoever seems quite appropriate. Good thing!

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