by Mary

Gender: Female
Age: 30s
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Austria
Highest education received: High school diploma
Occupation: Office worker
Relationship status: Relationship
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Playful, curious, love sexy underwear
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35ish now, then 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Discovery Of My G-Spot

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck-buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? At that time in my life I was in a relationship, but it was nearing its end, I just hadn’t been honest enough to myself to realise it.

My best friend convinced me to go out clubbing. We danced and laughed and had a great time. There was this guy, good looking, great figure, and he danced like a god. We danced and had fun and eventually started snogging. It felt so good but when he asked me to come back to his place, I told him I had a boyfriend and chickened out.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I couldn’t forget his passionate kisses and realised what was missing from my relationship: passion (well, it shouldn’t have come as a surprise since we only had had sex twice a year).

So a couple of weeks later, me and my friend were back at the club and I was overjoyed when I saw him again. We danced and had a laugh and this time I decided that I deserved some passion and desire and went home with him.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had long and passionate sex, in all different positions. It felt awesome but for some reason I couldn’t come. I don’t know if it was my subconscious giving me a hard time for cheating or if it was some physical reason, but I was getting a bit desperate.

Eventually we changed position again so that I was on top. I was arching back and moving on him when suddenly I felt a wave of pleasure rising inside me that I had never encountered before. I completely lost control and just went on riding him, being only dimly aware that everything seemed suddenly very wet down there. After my head exploded in some sort of pink fog, I collapsed onto him, panting heavily. At that time I didn’t quite realise what had happened: I had ejaculated. He was totally in awe and fascinated by my outbreak.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had the mother of all orgasms. After I recovered we went on shagging and he came too.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was in an unhappy relationship and hadn’t had sex for ages, because my boyfriend wasn’t a very “physical” person.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We had a few drinks at the club.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt wonderful! I had been sexually frustrated and had an overwhelming feeling of liberation. We met a few times again for sex and it was always great. I eventually broke up with my boyfriend, but I wasn’t interested in a new relationship. The guy also didn’t make a move so that was fine with me. Our thing ran out after a few months, he stopped calling me and I didn’t like being the one to instigate a meeting everytime.

I haven’t seen him for years, but I hope he is happy.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my best friends and they were very happy for me.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Absolutely consensual and wanted for both.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. I didn’t even feel guilty for cheating because something that feels so good can’t be a bad thing.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was my orgasm, the passion and feeling desired again.

This was my first experience with casual sex and it opened up a whole new world for me. I learned that it’s not necessary to love someone to have amazing sex. On the contrary, not needing to care too much about your lover’s feelings (apart from the normal level of mutual politeness and respect) can do wonders for your sexual satisfaction (especially for women, IMHO).

Coming out of an unsatisfying relationship that had undermined my self-esteem, I started to realise that I was a very sensual and sexual person. I continued to have casual sex and I learned a lot about me, about my desires and my needs.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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