What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Do It With A Rockstar

How long ago did this hookup happen? Three months ago.

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This man, we’ll call him Zack, he is the rhythm guitarist in not one, but two of my favorite indie rock bands. Yup. I still wake up and think it was a dream sometimes.

He’s British, very soft spoken, intellectual, and kind. I’m usually the same height as my partners but he’s 6’4 (I’m 5’7, so he was quite taller than me). He has brown eyes, lean build, blonde, tattoos, and he has a very lovely facial structure. He’s not my typical type but I am VERY attracted to him.

I’ve seen him play two different concerts, but by the third time I saw him I happened to meet him after his set by his tour bus. A bunch of fans were there as well, taking pictures and autographs and what nots from other band members. The first person he approached was myself. Instantly, I could tell that he was interested in me. Zack hugged me when I thanked him for such an amazing performance and he spoke to everyone equally, taking his time chatting with us. Eventually he did have to leave and before he took off, I asked for another hug. He obliged, but this time it was much more intimate. He pressed himself tightly against me, close enough so that I could feel his erection crushing against me. He whispered in my ear that I was fucking gorgeous and swore all kinds of things he could do to me. I was SOLD. We exchanged information, much to the dismay of the other fans that caught wind of what we were up to.

It was exciting, enthralling. And, naturally, I was seeing them perform a few days later in a different city. We got to know each other through texting and by the time I saw the next concert, after the set he took me to the VIP drinking lounge. We talked A LOT. He admitted that he never slept with a fan before, and was never interested in the idea of it. He was very honest with me, saying he hadn’t slept with anyone in quite some time since he left his girlfriend of 10 years (which is something we bonded over since I left my boyfriend of 10 years too). Zack even went as far as telling me he was prepared to leave in case it was a fluke and we didn’t hit it off. I had that same plan. But luckily for the both of us, we did hit it off.

There was a lot of making out that night, along with some heavy petting. I only felt him over his jeans (fuck, he is huge), but he was adventurous enough to reach up my skirt and fingered me plenty.

Eventually we went separate ways because he had to leave immediately for another city and my group was getting worried that I had been ignoring their phone calls. We parted. But he was very insistent on us keeping in contact. A few days passed and he was desperate to see me again. He offered me a free show in another city, guest list VIP. I said yes… and I was very much looking forward to the show, and the nitty gritty aftermath.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Another city, I watch him perform and I am losing my goddamn mind because this was my favorite band. And he was looking at me the whole time. ME. Neither of us had actually discussed about hooking up prior to us actually having sex, but it was incredibly evident that we were both looking to fuck the ever living daylights out of each other.

This concert, they weren’t the headliner, a band played after their set. Zack found me at my seat and we shared drinks and watched a bit of the last band play. Eventually we left the arena and headed for his hotel room.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I felt very comfortable and safe with him. He wanted to know if I was okay with us sleeping together, in fact he continued to ask me if I was alright throughout the night. We were talking for a while before anything really happened, I could tell he was as nervous as I was (I’ve never had casual sex before, let alone slept with someone famous). But once we started, we couldn’t stop.

It started off very gently, we were both a bit shy if you could believe. We kissed for a while and touched each other over our clothes. Next thing I know, Zack is giving me some of the best head in my entire life. His mouth was so hot and skilled. I lost count of how many times I came. He knew exactly what to do with little to no guidance from me. When the roles reversed, it was the same experience for him. He was writhing and looked like he was on the verge of insanity as I sucked him dry. Also! He was the first uncircumcised penis I’ve ever had. I was surprised at first but I didn’t mind it. Now that I think of it, I enjoyed it so much that I think I prefer uncut penises now.

We went at it orally for a while, then doggy style, standing up with him carrying me, in the shower, on the floor, we even 69’d at one point. It was an out of this world passion. I was orgasming like nobody’s business. The same went for him, his stamina is insane. It was so much fun to be wild with a total stranger. Although there was one point when I was moaning really loud, to the point of screaming and he covered my mouth with his hands. But he put his whole weight on me while doing this. It scared me for a hot second, I told him I didn’t get off on that. He apologized immediately and even went so far as withdrawing himself and asked if I wanted to stop. His kindness and attention to my feelings was more than enough to keep me going.

Zack is an incredible lover. He’s given me the most gorgeous sleep that I’ve ever had. Funnily enough, it was so good that we only slept for maybe 2 hours that night. He woke me by sucking on my neck and grinding against my ass. And of course, we went at it again. And again. And again. Woof. Good times.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt unbelievable with this man. He wanted to have breakfast with me and spend the day together, but I felt guilty because I had to leave back home to attend to work and other errands.

We’re still in touch. He’s made it evident that whenever I see another show of his, he’ll get me on the guest list. And we’ll be in “touch” again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friends who went with me to the show. They told me my “walk of shame” looked more like a “walk of fame”.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He’s in. My favorite. BANDS.

I go to a lot of shows. Music is everything to me. But I’ve never felt the need to sleep with a band member. This thing with Zack sort of happened very naturally. It wasn’t rushed or greedy, and most importantly I didn’t feel like a typical groupie. What kind of “rockstar” not only trusts you enough to allow you to sleep in his hotel room with all his possessions? but wanted to treat me to breakfast and a date after?

I get free access to his shows now. Plus fantastic sex. That’s a win in my book!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We consider each other friends with benefits but it’s getting complicated, emotionally speaking. I can tell Zack wants to keep this strictly sexual (which I don’t mind) but I’m afraid that I’ve become smitten with him.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Definitely. I’m a prude, sexually speaking, but this experience for sure opened my mind to exploring more options.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’m bummed he lives in another country. I have to wait until his next tour to hook up with him. Or save up to vacation & explore Europe while I get to have a slice of him again.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I was born and raised Catholic. I don’t identify as that anymore. Teachers scared us into thinking that premarital sex was such a hell worthy sin and I always thought it was such BS. The teachings never sat well with me as a teen but I never did sleep around. I guess it stuck in my subconscious? My parents taught me about consent and respect. Those things will always be very important to me. I’m still new to casual sex but now having experienced it, it only makes me more angry with religious teachings about the topic.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? AMAZING. I love reading other people’s encounters. Hopefully mine got to be of some interest to someone else.

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