by Tina

Gender: female
Age: 24
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Netherlands
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Don Juan

How long ago did this hookup happen? All night long and the next day

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? one-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I saw him at at night club. He was very handsome – tall, dark hair, tanned skin, beard, tattoos and a very cute Spanish accent. We started talking and dancing. The first thing I thought when I saw him was: oh god he is so fucking sexy and masculine and I wanted to grab his hair.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were dancing next to each other and I asked him for a cigarette. We were both very high on ecstasy and really touchy. He grabbed me and we started dancing with each other for quite a while until he kissed me. I didn’t plan on picking up any guy that night and I think he wasn’t either, cause he was in Holland with his friend for holidays. His friends left and he said he wants to stay with me, so I said he should. We partied for another hour and then went to my place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We both have partied for over 12 hours (first a festival and then an afterparty at a nightclub) so we first took a shower together. We were both very horny so we kissed and touched each other like crazy. He fingered me and I touched his penis. Afterwards we went to my bed and he ate my pussy and fucked me missionary and doggy and I was riding him. The sex was fantastic – sometimes hard, sometimes soft. We kissed a lot and I enjoyed every minute of his penis inside of me. After sex we fell asleep and the next morning I woke him up with a blowjob saying “good morning”. He licked and fingered me and fucked me missionary and spooned me and I was on top again. After he came we cuddled and talked about life, love and made jokes. We had breakfast and layed in bed until 5pm. Even though I didn’t come (too many drinks) we had amazing sex. In the end he had to leave because he had to meet up with his friends and catch a plane back to Spain.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I grabbed some condoms and said I don’t wanna get pregnant. He laughed and pulled it over.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? He was just so fucking sexy I couldn’t resist. And I knew, if I won’t do it now I will never meet him again and have the chance to have sex with him.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes. I don’t know how much he took or drank but I think it was quite a bit. We both partied for quite a long time already and we smoked a joint after having sex.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was quite surprised that he stayed until 5pm but I loved it. Everything felt so natural and we just fully enjoyed each others company. I would love to see him again, and he wrote me a few messages after he left so I assume he would like to see me as well, but it will probably never happen, because we live in different countries.. I don’t have any expectations, it was just very good sex with a very attractive man and totally unexpected.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my housemate two days later. When I told her that he is Spanish she only said “Don Juan”.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No not at all. I am still fantasizing about it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about this hookup was that it felt so easy – we had good conversations and fun.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I never had sex with a Spanish person before, but I am sure he won’t be the last one.


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