What’s your gender? Genderqueer / Nonbinary
How old are you? 20
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Berlin
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Fluid
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 12 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I did not know the guy very well. He described himself as an Arab guy and posted pretty good looking pictures of himself online. Well, I had to find out that photoshop seems to be his best friend, because he didn’t look very much like that in real life. He was really hairy and chubby. I met him through a dating app, which is known for gay hookups. I did not know much about him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was really spontaneous and I went to his place. Before it I wanted to get to know him better so I walked around a bit with him and talked. He was rather reserved but he seemed interested in me so I decided to go to his place to have sex.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The sex was not really spectacular. He told me to go down on my knees and suck his dick. He did not put a condom on, and before I could protest he forced his dick inside my mouth. After a while he stopped that and told me to lie down on the bed. I tried to communicate with him about where he is going to go (if he wants to fuck me in the ass or in the front hole), but he just looked at me and said “shhhh”.. Like he wanted me to shut up. It felt really comical to me. I think I also asked him along the lines of if he would suck me and he said, he is a top, he does not do that. Then he started fucking me and I didn’t feel his dick. He tried to stimulate my dick with rubbing it, but it didn’t help. He also spit at my genitalia without asking me if I would be ok with it. After 4 minutes or so he was done. He took out the dick and sat on the bed, still saying nothing. I asked him if everything is ok. and he responded that he is not the talkative type of person. Then I assumed that it is the time to put my clothes back on and go. He kept on sitting on his bed and was watching youtube videos with baby animals in them.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I did not regret it, but I felt shitty because I didn’t orgasm, he didn’t care about my needs, and for me it was unsafe sex (no condom for BJ), so I felt a bit violated. I did not contact him afterwards.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel more desirable, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my former partner (who abused me) who thought it was hot that the person forced his dick inside my mouth without asking me. They thought it was great.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because it didn’t give me the pleasure I wanted and the person was unpleasant.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Me leaving.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The ego of the other person. They were only about their pleasure.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yeah, it made me rethink my choices about people I have sex with.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
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