What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Rome
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? seller
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30* Had 2 from 15 to 27
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Don’t Fall Down, Please. You Are Too Pretty To Ruin Your Face

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She did look like exactly like most of the girls I like and most of the girls who are not from my city. Long, blonde hair, blue eyes and an incredible smile. We met on the street in the “movida area” and she was about to fall down because of the street holes so I said “Don’t fall down, please. You are too pretty to ruin your face”. I said that in Italian even if I was like 90% sure she was from the USA. She told me she doesn’t speak Italian so I started to speak English and translated the sentence (I am rarely this direct with girls, especially because it NEVER WORKS with Italian girls).

I started to talk with her and her friend but 5 minutes later they said they needed to join their friends in the bar in front of us. I was so sad. I started to walk with my friend and join our favorite bar down the street. After 5 minutes I saw her enter the bar. I turned my head and said hi. I was happy. She was clearly happy to see me so she came to me and we started to talk and my friend started to talk to her friend. After 10 minutes of introduction and laughs and small talk, I told her some interesting things about this bar, her hand, and the world. She started to look at me with “those eyes”. I asked her if she would like to drink a shot with me. She said yes.

I took her hand and we went to the bar counter. I did order the shots and I looked her into the eyes. I couldn’t believe it. She already wanted it. So I kissed her. Her friends were about to leave. I’d lost my friend by that point because he went back home. She came to me and said to walk with them. All of their friends did agree to let her go with a stranger she just met 40 minutes earlier. (miracle or USA craziness of vacation?) I don’t know. I took her hand and we went to my car and I drove a little way to a hill where you can admire the best view in Rome. A hidden place, safe from tourists in the centre of the city. I did ask her if she was drunk and she said “I’ve had enough but I’m not wasted”. We started to talk a lot about our past and our future as we were sitting on a wall just behind a gigantic statue and in front of all the lights of the city

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I kissed her passionately and started to touching her breast…as I had a good feedback I started to finger her and she was wet. We moved into my car and I jumped on her…she wasn’t sure about the place but then she said it was ok but I realized where the fuck I was and, even if it was very romantic place there is usually some police so I did ask her if she wanted to come to my place. She said, “No, we just met.” I didn’t insist even If I should had (after all I drove her around the city). I drove her to her Airbnb apartment and we couldn’t go inside because there was another girl sleeping. I jumped on her again and I felt she really wanted it..however I did ask her that if she wasn’t sure or didn’t want I was ok and happy for the night. She said “No its fine..please” I took my wallet from my right pocket and I took out a condom from it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started to have sex in missionary position but I felt she had 0 experience in the car in contrast of Italian girls (there is a lot of sex inside cars because Italians often live with their parents until late 20s). I tried my best and she did as well… It was very passionate… We did hold hands and kissed a lot. It was very passionate but I couldn’t reach the orgasm at all.. Not even close. I tried to make her move to doggy-style position but it was even worse because she laid down instead of stay on her knees. So at that point I gave up. I walked her at the door and we started to kissing again a lot. I started to finger her again as she was driving me to her clit and close to the orgasm..but she really had to ago.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great that night and I wanted to meet her again for the rest of her days in Rome. She told me her parents were coming to visit her the next day and that I shouldn’t have been upset if i couldn’t meet her that day. She told me she would try to find a way to escape them to meet with me but I’ve never met her again. I told her to text me as soon as she was in her apartment. She did and I texted her a good night. She did ask me if I was already at home but I was in my car. She told me to drive safe and I told her I was safe when I crashed in my bad. The next day I texted her and I did ask in the night if there was any room for escape but she told me “not tonight at all”. I felt she tried to avoid me the days after..telling me she had the flu but that was just my impression. I went straight to the point anyway and i did ask her if there were any other reasons to not meet me if she didn’t like it in the car or if it was just one night. She texted me back “No, no, of course not. I’m just sick”. I told her that it was ok..and that I woke up with some bruises on my leg. She laughed and told me she had bruises as well. I will never know the truth about that girl

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A friend of mine I was that night with, he was happy. Another friend told me that all those adventoures I have with foreigners tourist will never end up in a relationship and that I should stop or I will never be happy

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I was MAD ATTRACTED to this girl…I liked every second with her and every inch of her body

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I couldn’t see her again…I don’t know why….I still ask myself if I was just some random Italian cute guy she wanted to hook up with or if she really liked me

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? not at all

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Im shocked 6 girls left their friend with a stranger. I didn’t even talk to all of them but just with 1 or maybe 2

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual Sex is the best when there is a nice reason to do are horny or you really feel bond to that person. Its really bad when someone regret it the day after

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Really interesting. I found it via TEDx. I would even like to enter the project and know much more about it. I will post more stories for sure

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