What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Michigan
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Executive
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Adventurous. Experienced.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 350+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 3
Don’t Judge a Book by Its Cover
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1982
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She lived one floor up in the apartment building my brother and I lived in while we attended college in Indianapolis. While she was somewhat homely she was not ugly. She took care of herself well, always clean and nicely dressed, even when casual. She was 29 years old, stood about 5’6″ and weighed in at around 125 lbs. Decently built with smallish but healthy looking breasts, and slightly wider than average hips with a fair ass. Her legs were probably her best visible asset being always nicely shaved and very smooth – they looked absolutely delicious when she wore a dress, almost like a professional dancer. Her hair was was straight and hung down to her mid-back, and very shiny and lightweight with just enough body to keep it from looking flat.
My brother and I had a friend from school over one evening and we decided that we should play euchre, but the only challenge with this is that none of us liked to play 3-handed. So I went upstairs and knocked on D’s door and asked her if she would like to come down and be my partner. We had talked a few times over the past 3 or so weeks since we met and learned that each of us really enjoyed playing euchre, so it seemed like a natural thing to ask her to be my partner. I didn’t think much about hooking up with her, until later, that is.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The 4 of us played several games, and she proved to be a very good partner. It seemed that we could communicate very well without doing any real table talk, so we were able to pretty much dominate my brother and our other friend. After about an hour and a half D started rubbing my shin with her bare foot, which got my mind thinking more about what could happen after I walked her back to her apartment after the game, which we all were starting to grow tired of playing anyway. When I looked her in the eye after the first couple times of her foot touching my shin I could see that she was thinking that she might just want to be more than just a euchre partner for the night. There really was no real planning involved up to this point but both of us realized that we knew I was going to shoot a load into her that night, which was just fine with me because my fiance was still at home 300 miles away and I hadn’t had any sex since my brother and I had moved about a month earlier.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When I walked D back to her apartment I grabbed her ass on the stairway and told her that I was going to make her pay for teasing me like that with her foot. She assured me that she was not teasing even slightly by turning around on the stairs and kissing me hard while softly grabbing my mildly stiffening phallus, then saying, “Don’t ever accuse me of teasing again; my mattress is waiting for some bouncing.” Then she grabbed my hand and almost dragged me up the rest of the stairs and down the hall to her place without saying anything else.
Once inside her apartment D started stripping without turned around, and just walked toward her bedroom dropping her clothes on the completely uncluttered floor saying, “I’ll pick these up later. Right now you need to follow me.” So, I followed suit and started stripping as I followed her to her bedroom. She just jumped on the bed, landing on her back with her legs spread and told me to eat her pussy until she couldn’t breathe. I was inexperienced in being told or ordered what to do by a woman, so I was just slightly intimidated with her aggressiveness but was very compliant, especially since I have really loved eating pussy since I was 14 years old. D had a very wet pussy with a really strong, pungent but clean aroma and flavor. I had my face buried in her twat for more than 20 minutes, bringing her to multiple orgasms, and the last several minutes were some of the best orgasms I’ve ever been involved with, and she quite nearly passed out from being truly breathless for quite a while.
After pushing my head away from her crotch she got up from the bed and said she needed some orange juice, and got a couple of large glasses full, instructing me to drink up because I was going to need all the energy I could muster up (as if energy was going to be much of problem for a healthy, strong, 6’3″ 195 lbs. runner.) After drinking our OJ she pushed me back on the bed and climbed on top of me in the 69 position and proceeded to give me my first true deepthroat blowjob while smashing her pussy into my face again for me to eat some more. We gobbled each others genitals for probably 15 minutes before she said she had to have me inside her, and slid down and guided my cock inside her sopping pussy and rode me reverse cowgirl for quite a while. We changed positions probably a dozen times over then next 2 hours until I told her I was going to paint her insides white. She laughed and said she’s been wanting that since we met.
After I unloaded my semen deep into her pussy she went down on me again and said that I needed to clean her up, then got on top again in 69. We ate each other until she had another face-soaking orgasm, then snuggled for about 1/2 an hour or so until she said she needed to get to sleep but didn’t want to have to wake me up in the morning. I was ok with that because her bed wasn’t very comfortable anyway. So, I got dressed, we kissed again and said good night after swapping compliments.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I was rather tired after our fun night together, but of course it was a very good day. We talked the next evening after she got home from work, and shared another short but rather passionate kiss. We agreed that we needed to get together again soon.
D and I talked several more times over the next week and were planning to get together again after I went home for the following weekend but I was seriously injured in an automobile accident and was laid up in hospital for the next 5 months. She came up to see me a couple times, the second time telling me that she was moving several states away but really enjoyed our one time together.
I had experienced many one night stands over the previous two years, but none of the women I had known compared in their sexual aggression to D. Her looks were very deceiving because to look at her one would think that she was pretty much a prude, and maybe even still a virgin. I guess the old saying, “You can’t judge a book by its cover” is true. One never knows the fire inside another person until one gets to know the other.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody. In fact, this is the first time I have ever mentioned it to anybody.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? D’s aggressiveness in making sure she got what she wanted and the surprise that people are not always as they are first perceived.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not being able to ever be with her again.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Only that a person who might look like an “innocent” prude could actually be potentially more than some people might want to hookup with because they have such a sexual fire within them.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I still sometimes have a challenge believing that D was the sexual fireball she was. My only regret is that I didn’t hookup with her again.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has been a big part of my life since I was about 14 years old. I have enjoyed CS many thousands of times with several hundred partners, some as one night stands, some FWB, and even within committed relationships. CS can be a negative when it is either coerced or to try to improve ones self image/self respect. If one party is coerced, I believe that can be considered a form of rape both legally and morally. In order to safely enjoy casual sex one should not expect it to be a cure or a tool to improve ones self image or social standing, but instead it should be viewed as recreation, relaxation and possibly socially stimulating, as it can definitely fulfill all of those needs, but ONLY when all parties are willingly consenting.
I think that CS is practiced by more people than would admit it even in a completely anonymous survey. That being said, there are not as many who enjoy it regularly as many of us would like to imagine.
I would like to see the social stigma erased for both men and women who choose to enjoy casual sex, whether on a rather regular basis or simply as an occasional diversion.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoy it. What a refreshing forum to read and participate in. I am enjoying bringing to recollection many of my sexual experiences, most of which have been very enjoyable on every level.
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