What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Los Angeles
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last spring
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s 23, a grad student at UCLA, while I’m still an undergrad. The two of us were friends prior to the hookup but he had made it clear since the beginning that he wanted me. I secretly wanted him, too, but I concealed that the whole time. I think he knew it, though, which was why he was persistent. I had a strong attraction to him since the night we met. He was tall, gorgeous, and intelligent, and I loved his witty humor. I knew he had had many sexual partners but I never gave a shit. We were good friends and I always loved the time I spent with him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At the time of the hookup, I lived in a single suite on campus. I never had to worry about people coming over or spending the night since I had no roommates. He was the only guy who did spend the night, though, but it was never sexual. He often came over at night just to sleep next to me and nothing ever happened. One night we were both hanging out in my dorm and having cake (I fucking love cake and our first conversation actually started when I asked him if he wanted some cake). I had been thinking for maybe a week about what would happen if we did have sex and debated whether or not it was a good idea. But that night I was sitting on my bed and he just looked so damn good that I thought, fuck it. I scooted over and straddled him so I could kiss him. He was mildly surprised and he seemed a bit hesitant for a second because he wasn’t sure what I was going for. But I just told him that I wanted him and that was it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were just making out for maybe ten minutes and then I tugged his shirt up and off. He did the same with mine and then my bralette was off, too. My breasts are really sensitive so I love the stimulation and he spent a while kissing and caressing them. He sucked on my nipples and lightly bit down. I was so excited that this was finally happening that I told him to just fuck me. He said, “No,” and laid me down on my bed, pulling off my underwear. I hadn’t had sex in a while so it took a brief moment for me to get used to being completely naked but he was already kissing and tracing his tongue over my belly and my inner thighs. He spent a lot of time on foreplay, which was pretty great. Every second just made me want him more and more.
He told me that he wanted to take his time because he hadn’t thought that he would actually get to do this. We had sex twice–the first time was slower and there was a lot of build-ups but the second was much more urgent. He liked switching positions but my favorite part was riding him because it stimulated my clit more. The strongest orgasm I had was when he was fucking me from behind and it made my body feel weak. He had been thrusting hard and fast and I couldn’t even manage to say, “Don’t stop.” He came inside me (I was on BC pills for a different reason) and I just lay there feeling limp, not having the strength to move. I wondered why I didn’t just let this happen earlier.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We spent the rest of the night together just talking like we normally do. There was a lot of kissing and touching and I was feeling unusually affectionate. It was probably just the orgasms. He had work the next morning and I had class so we parted but I went over to his apartment that night and we hooked up again. It ended up being a nightly occurrence for a week and a half, and then a few times a week. We still hung out during the day as friends but it felt different, in a good way.
I think I’ve been getting too attached to him but we’ll see what happens. He’s on the other side of the country now but in a couple of months, classes will start and he’ll be here again. I’m pretty sure we’ll be continuing hooking up but I have this tiny hope that it might turn into something more, even for a short time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Ending up being friends-with-benefits. Neither of us has other sexual partners since the night it first happened.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? He makes me feel confident and desired. I used to be the kind of person who only wanted sex if there was an emotional connection, so I didn’t think I would ever have casual sex. I guess I do have a connection with him but it’s not really a romantic one.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
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