by zippo

Gender: Female
Age: 41
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: Australia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Artist
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: N/A
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Dream Come True

How long ago did this hookup happen? A year ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I hadn’t had a crush like this on someone for years,we knew each other tenuously through the music scene.I’d been haunted by him for months,felt sort of possessed/obsessed.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hook up began at a gallery,where I was sitting a show.I was thrilled to see him there,as it was clear he was keen to see me.It was very flirty,he kept looking into my eyes.He invited me ands my friend back to his to play music.After music and drinking he crossed the room,sat down next to me,and just started kissing me.My friend left.He picked me up and carried me to his room.I was very drunk so the details are hazy,but I came away feeling incredibly satisfied as for the first time in my life I’d squirty orgasmed through coital sex not foreplay.Several times at least.The sex was a blur of extreme pleasure.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We did everything but anal,no kinky stuff.I felt fantastic and also freaked out.I had been married to the same man for many years and had only recently thought”I will have sex with X if the opportunity arises”..so here it was,happening and exceeding my expectations .We had fun,very playful and when I left,I thought it would be a great one-off,but then he asked for my number.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had multiple orgasms,probably to 1 or 2 for him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We took no precautions and didn’t discuss std history.He probably withdrew though.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? The reason was infatuation and desire,abandon.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Lots of wine and then moved on to vodka and weed.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up we met up about a week later,then continued to do so,about 3 times a fortnight or so.Innitially I saw it as something to keep at arms length,then he started insisting that I looked him in the eyes,then I fell in love.I could hardly stop thinking about him,I could muster an orgasm that would floor me just by thinking of him.It became too much,so I ended it.Then I proceeded to end my marriage,as I realised beyond all doubt,that it was over.It was very hard times,I ached for him and I also had the sadness of the end of my marriage and the difficulties and stress of handling that.
After a couple of months he made contact and we started hooking up again,but then I got angry at the idea of being part of a group text booty call and it sickened me.He denies it,I was ok with him seeing others,but the group text thing upset me.I realised too that I needed something a bit more grown up and discussed,not just random booty calls.I expect that we’ll be lovers again,one day,if not good friends.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve told most of my female friends as this went on for over a year.Some warned me away,some said enjoy it.They were all understanding as they knew I’d been unhappy in my marriage for a long time.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was mutually consensual and wanted.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I have no regrets,the highs outweigh the lows.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about this was that I realised that (even though I thought I’d experienced the apex of pleasure in my sex life before,)that there were giddy new heights.The worst was how I feared my husband finding out and being hurt,and also the agony and torment of wanting someone soooooo baaad that you risk so much to see them.I’ve never risked so much for someone.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? It’s hard to deal with something that had so much meaning and was such a huge experience.I feel both supremely blessed and like an absolute fool.

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