What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Cashier
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? No
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Drunk Bloody Mess
How long ago did this hookup happen? A few months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Nice looking guy; we met in a bar in Toronto.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning was involved except for the fact that I was horny that night.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The hookup was horrible, we didn’t know where to go because we both lived pretty far away from the bar so we decided to do it in the car. I lay down, and just like that, he inserts his dick inside of me. It hurts like hell, I don’t manage to understand why because my vagina is dripping wet, and partly because I’m so fucking drunk. When I think back on it, it’s like all of the muscles in my vagina were tense, refusing to let anything pass. Just when it starts to get fun, the guy says, “Fuck, there’s blood all over!”, He pulls ou, and proceeds to freak out. We tried to get cleaned up and went our separate ways. Told him I was on my period so he wouldn’t feel bad.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning, I realize that I had actually torn my vagina. For the next few days, I couldn’t sit without re-opening the wound, and it hurt for the next week. Plus I was so drunk that I couldn’t remember if we had used a condom. I texted him and neither could he. We both got tested (just in case) came back negative.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) I don’t know if we took precautions
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Those who were there that night, I was laughing so they laughed.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? Because I had to get tested, couldn’t sit for the next few days…
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Nothing
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The pain, the blood on a nice dress, the aftermath.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, I’ll make sure I’m not as drunk next time.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I do think it should be more accepted, especially on the women’s part.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great, I think it will help show it as a normal thing.
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