What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? South America
What country and/or city do you live in? Colombia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Assistant
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Drunk hostel sex
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met at the kitchen in a hostel. He’s caucasian, has blue eyes and a nice thin body. He was nice and seemed more interested in talking more than anything else.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were talking very late at night. I was just arriving from a club and he was hanging around because he had been drinking early with his friends. We went out for a drink and after a while we were making out. Afterwards we decided to go back to the hostel and went together to the room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Mostly missionary. We were in bunkbeds and sharing the room with other 5 people. He was very respectful although we were tipsy and horny, so it all was very fast.
It wasn’t good sex. I felt uncomfortable with all the people around, even though they were “sleeping”. So I cut it in the middle.
I had fun and felt pleasure, but actually the best part was the cuddling after we finished. It was still sexy and comforting.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt empowered and sexy. I really liked the experience even though the sex was not exactly good. We kept contact after that, we had a couple of dates and other hookups. We remain friends but no longer see each other. I was disappointed for a while that it didn’t turn out to be something more engaging. It wasn’t because of having casual sex that once, but because of other type of encounters we had afterwards.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To some female friends. It was just a funny story, they were also cheerful about it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sexual energy release.
The feeling of adventure about breaking the rules and to try something new.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The later embarrassment when crossing my roommates. The fear of STDs
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me feel more comfortable with me and around people. I lost some of the fear I had about hooking up with strangers.
Previous experiences made me think that I couldn’t enjoy casual sex, but this hookup made me feel less tense and contained.
That was the turning point, now I enjoy casual sex and don’t question so much my sexual desires
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was great because he’s actually a very sensitive and careful guy.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think this is a marvelous experience everyone should try at least once. However I still feel somewhat insecure when I do it. I’m usually afraid of engaging with violent partners or catching an STD.
There should be more openness around the topic, so we don’t have to hide and be so secretive about it. Without the judgment and the shaming we could get to discuss about STDs and feelings in a more relaxed a natural way.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? i really like it. I feel like finally watching behind the curtains
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