What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Sales
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Drunk In Paris
How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was in his early 20’s and was a classmate of mine in my business classes at college. I always thought he was a little cute; he had an average build and was a white college kid.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was on a trip with my school where we were meeting with international businesses. I had a pretty tight knit group of friends from my class, and Harry was one of them. We went out drinking one night while in Paris, and between the fact that I always get horny when I’m drinking and just the general atmosphere of Paris, this was not a good combination for me. I was recently engaged to be married to a great guy, and I had never cheated before. I began to get a blister on my foot from all the walking we did, and Harry offered to help, saying he had first aid training from his time in the military. I was wearing knee high socks, and while I took one down to expose the blister, Harry made a comment about how sexy that was – something about a sexy schoolgirl look. After getting things patched up, we continued drinking, and I was well beyond my limit. I was drunk. We all walked back to our hotel, and someone suggested a night cap, which took place in Harry’s room. Slowly but surely, all my other friends went back to their rooms to sleep, and it wound up being just me and Harry.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It didn’t take long for the conversation to lead to sex. Harry mentioned my socks again, and I tried pulling my jeans up so he could see them, but they were too tight. So, I stupidly went with his suggestion of taking my pants off instead. I was wearing sexy pink lingerie (bra/panties), and I told him about how they were a matching set when he commented on the bottoms, which led to the suggestion that I take off my shirt, as well, so he could have a peek. I honored his request, at which point he made his move, and in my drunk and horny state, I did nothing to stop him. We made out for some time before he reached his hand into my panties, and began rubbing my clit. I was so wet at this point that I didn’t even have a single thought about my fiancé from that point on. I took off his pants and began jerking him off, and I eventually made my way down to start sucking him off – something I’m not normally a fan of, but I was horny and felt naughty so it excited me. Eventually, he pulled my panties off and began fucking me in only my socks and bra. I did regret not using a condom afterward, but in the moment, I couldn’t let that stop the process. It was quick, and not particularly great sex, but I got off, and he did as well. He pulled out and wanted to come on my face, but I refused. He ended up finishing on my boobs and stomach mostly.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was EXTREMELY embarrassed the next day. Things were very awkward for awhile, as we never really acknowledged what had happened that night. Right after I was done, I felt extremely guilty and immediately sent my fiancé some nudes. This was something I didn’t often do, but it made me feel a little better about the whole thing – like I was making it up to him somehow (even though he never found out).
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy/convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Never told anybody.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I felt guilty about cheating on my partner for the first time. He was the only person I ever had sex with up until that point, and he still believes he’s been the only one to this day.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The excitement and pleasure that was in the moment.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Feeling guilty afterward.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have cheated a few other times since that night, and though I still feel a little guilty each time, I kind of feel like what he doesn’t know can’t hurt him.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it. Check-in for new stories each day, and I maybe will share some more of my own.
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