by That girl

Gender: Female
Age: 27
Race/ethnicity: Hispanic
Current location: Texas
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: MPH
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Grew up Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

East Coast Military Guy Fling

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Short fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met at dancing place in the East Coast. He is in the air force so he is in great shape. Tall, dark hair, blue eyes, tanned skin. We met in the dance floor, he caught my eyes because he is an excellent salsa dancer, which is rare among Caucasian guys. I’ve dated a lot of white guys and none had rhythm whatsoever, so I was impressed.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Like I said before, we met at a dance place on a Friday night. At first it was just me wanting to dance with hims because 1) he is very attractive 2.) Great dancer. He asked me to dance with him so I couldn’t say no. I was 23 at the time and he was 28. We danced all night but I had to leave a bit early because I needed to catch the subway and I was with friends but before I left he asked for my number. I normally don’t give out my number that easily but I had a great time with him, he was a great dancer, and very attractive. But before giving him my number I glanced at his left hand and saw no ring so I went ahead and gave him my number. The next morning he texted me (I was pretty excited, not going to lie). He invited me for dinner, so we went out again on Saturday.

I was a young intern at a well renowned institution getting ready to go back to TX to start graduate school. When I met him, it was my last week in the East coast so I wasn’t looking for anything serious. I just wanted to have a good time, and good sex. He was also there for a week of training so that week became our little short fling. By the second night together we finally went to his hotel room. It was a big suite, with a long couch on the side and enough space to dance. I knew I wanted to sleep with him so I was just waiting for him to make a move… to my surprise he was taking a while to make a move. I finally started kissing him and he finally got the hint. So I guess in a way I was the one who instigated. After that night we started to see each other until we both parted to our respected places. It was a fun wild week.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We did all kinds of positions. I am a very sexual person so anything goes. I love seeing a man enjoying having sex with me. The first night we went at it for 3 hours. He was surprisingly very sweet in bed. He had oral sex; he gave me some and I gave him some. We did doggy style, we did it in the couch, in the shower. It just amazing sex. I can go on for hours and he can too so we both enjoyed it a lot.

Once we finished I told him I was moving back to texas and that if he wanted we could just have a good time for the remaining time. That night I spent the night there and then the next morning we woke up and had sex again. I just remember his muscle arms holding me tight and his firm abs. He also had the perfect dick. Long and thick. He felt great inside me. I definitely had many orgasms.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, we both did. Many and I cant remember how many.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted a wild night with a handsome guy without having an emotional attachment. Just a fun fling before parting back to TX.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None. We were both sober.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up I felt great. I did not have any expectations. I was not expecting to hear from him after that great week since we were both at different stages in our careers.

Once I moved from TX he started calling me. He actually got into me but I wasn’t sure about it because I was starting grad school and didn’t want any distractions but I continue talking to him on the phone and texting with him. After a month, I received a call from his number and it was his WIFE!! The guy was married!!! I was very upset because I don’t mess around with married men, there are plenty of uncommitted men out there to chose from, no need to take someone else’s man. I felt really bad and I reassured his wife that I was not getting in the middle of them. I stayed on the phone with her for like 30 mins hearing her cry. I felt horrible. I obviously told his wife to tell him never to call me again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual on both sides

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes, in a way. He was a married man and I felt like a home homewrecker, even though I didn’t know he was married. After two years that went by, he called me again and told me he had divorced his wife and that he couldn’t get me out of his mind. And I couldn’t either. I know it was probably the fact that at the time I was a free spirit child and since I didn’t care what he thought of me, because I was not emotionally attach to him, I was able to show him my true, fun side. We both were able to be ourselves. I am very sorry that he decided to get a divorce; he assured me his marriage was done way before he met me but he hadn’t divorce earlier because he wanted to try his best to make it work. Whether is true or not, who knows, but it did make me feel better.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This definitely changed the way I view casual sex. Now I make sure to ask directly if they are married instead of just glancing at the left hand for a ring. And at this stage in my life I don’t enjoy casual sex as much as I used to

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? After 4 years he is calling again. I do enjoy our conversations but still can get out of my mind the fact that he cheated on his wife. I do like him but I think it might be true what they say “once a cheater, always a cheater.”

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