by Christine

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: White/Hispanic
Location: Florida
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Part-time Sales Associate
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? One
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Easterly Wind

How long ago did this hookup happen? Recently

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a bit taller than me, very masculine and blonde hair, blue eyes. I have know him for three years and we have hooked up three years previously. Our last hookup turned somewhat sour after I tried for a relationship with him and he didn’t want one. We met at the college we both attended through a mutual friend. Our friendship before the hookup had been on and off, as we both attend different universities now and found it difficult to stay in contact.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A few weeks before the hookup we went out with a few friends to hangout at a bar. I had not had any contact with him after the bar and decided to text him to wish him a happy birthday (the day we hooked up). We texted back and forth for the next hour or so joking around before he proposed I come over to celebrate his birthday with him.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started laying on his bed watching a movie. I am very ticklish so when he began to rub my back, I couldn’t help but squirm. He enjoys doing this to me and held onto me. His touches turned very sexual and we performed oral sex on one another before having sex. At different times throughout the night we both had orgasms. After the sex, we cuddled and just talked about school, work and what was going on in our lives.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We discussed using condoms on one of our previous interactions and used condoms for this one.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It was fun, casual and we both had the free time to have it.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up we continue to text and joke around and will hookup again when the time is right. I do not know what expectations or hopes I have in regards to my future with this person. I do not want to have any hopes that this will turn into something more. I feel our relationship is a bit more intimate though.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Two of my closest gal friends. Both were unsurprised.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes this was a consensual experience for the both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, I never have regrets about our hookups.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about this hookup is that we were able to become friends again. I am more confident knowing that we can hang out as friends without any worries of our previous actions.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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