by Gina

Gender: Female
Age: 27
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Location: Singapore
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Manager
Relationship status: In a long term relationship
Religious affiliation: Christianity/ Buddhism
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? A majority (5 out of 7)  sex partners were with men whom I had long term relationships with.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup? one night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Eurasian male that I met only on the night of the hook up, at a club, the attraction was instantaneous. We were on different ends of the room but we slowly made our way towards each other.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were dancing and decided to go out for some air and leave the club for a stroll. We had very pleasant time telling each other about ourselves and I think we both had an inkling that this will lead to sex, our body language was very comfortable with each other. In the end we figured his home was nearer so we went over.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had oral and vaginal sex. It was very passionate and we were vocal (not shouting and screaming but we definitely would be audible in the next room). I climaxed multiple times and my partner enjoyed seeing that i was being pleasured, i was pleasuring myself and him as well. He was definitely good in bed but he enjoyed sex longer than i did but it wasnt a bad thing. I left after a quick nap as I had an appointment in the morning. I did not recall what we spoke about post-sex but it wasn’t uncomfortable, i did sense that he hoped he could see me again and to keep in touch as he reminded me to message him. it was raining and he gave me an umbrella to take him. I told him I may drop by to return it if i was passing by the area.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom and no we did not discuss our sti history.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was single then and I have not met anyone whom I have had such instantaneous chemistry with before so i thought i’d just go with the flow and see where it goes.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I was sober and he seemed fine as well. Doubt we were drunk or on drugs though we would have some alcohol in our system by then (it was around 3am)

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt fine and perhaps happy as it was a good love making session. I did not think i’d see him for long as he was due to return to his homeland in a few weeks when his studies ended here. He did message but i felt that perhaps due to the language barrier (eng was not his first language though he was relatively fluent in it) we interacted best face to face. I feel that what we had was just a moment and it has passed,I dont feel anything towards him, its a rather neutral feeling. If anything i feel guilty about not returning his umbrella.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I did not tell anyone.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual for both of us and we both enjoyed it

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best was knowing that such chemistry between 2 people exist and I experienced it. Yes this made me think twice about reasons people may have for hooking up, perhaps they just want to fulfil the destiny of chemistry.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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