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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 39
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Portugal
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? education
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? more than 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Encounter at The Local Pool’s Changing Room

How long ago did this hookup happen? 15 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? At the time, he 23 years old and I was 26. Taller than me, probably around 1,85 m (I’m 1,78m), he was very fit, as he studied sports at the university and was a karate athlete. He’s the typical south-European guy: tanned skin, dark hair, thick beard and a great lair of hair all over his body, especially legs, chest, thighs and crotch.
We had common friends (a gay couple) but hadn’t met before. I had seen him already a few days before in a fashion show in my town, where he had been asked to participate (he was that good-looking).
Talking with my friends about this gorgeous guy I saw at the show, they told me he was their friend and that he liked men too. So they told me the next day they were going to spend the day at the local public pools (this was summer) and that we were going to be there with them, and that I could join if I wanted. I was excited with the prospect of meeting him but honestly thought we were way out of my league and that nothing could ever happen between us.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The place was the public pools of my hometown. No planning was involved. Of course, my friends were looking forward to seeing if we’d get along, but that was all. The journey was passing normally as a common group of friends would be on a summer day. We chatted all day, but nothing sexual, except for the casual comment on some other boys that were around. I enjoyed watching his body the most I could in a discreet manner, as I didn’t know if he was into me and didn’t want to make him uncomfortable. The decisive moment happened mid-afternoon. He said he was going to go into the water and I said I’d keep him company. Our friends said they would stay sunbathing a bit longer. Then, when we were walking to the pool, he told me he’d have to go to the toilet before. I couldn’t quite get if he was implying anything or not, but I decided that I shouldn’t miss the opportunity to try and see his dick (if nothing else happened). So I told I needed to take a piss too and that I’d go with him. He acted with some indifference, like “ok, it’s public, come if you want, I couldn’t care less”. Was he playing hard to catch, I wondered.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once we got to the changing room where the toilets where we stood side by side pissing and the game was finally open clear. I stared at his dick and realized he was looking at me. His dick was hanging soft while he pissed but seemed to start to get a bit stiffer, and I told him he had a nice piece of meat. He told me I could get a closer look if I wanted and we decided to go in one of the shower compartments, which were a the end of the corridor, were larger and had a door almost to the floor. Once in there, we kissed for a few moments and explored our bodies with our hands. Shortly after I got on my knees and took his now hard cock into my mouth and started sucking on it. The blowjob became facefucking sometimes, as he would hold my head and thrust his dick inside my throat, which proved highly exciting to both of us. At the same time, I was exploring his crack with my hands and played with the thick hair he had over there and with his sensible hole. As I was pressing it, he reached orgasm and, without warning, filled my mouth with his cum. I was caught by surprise (no one had ever cum in my mouth before), so I took his dick out and spat the cum out because I didn’t want to swallow. But I was too excited, so I did get back to his dick and played a bit more with it and got to taste his man-milk while I came on the floor.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we finished, we got dressed, cleaned the mess we had done on the floor and got out of there. We went into the pool and enjoyed the rest of the day normally. Our friends made fun of us, but all was cool. We kept in contact and in the next days we met again a couple of times to hang around. I blew him one other time, and we had anal sex once, but that was it. At the time, I expected this could turn into something more serious and was a bit sad when I realized he wasn’t into that. In retrospective, I understand now that all he was looking for was someone to get off with and I’m cool with it, as I realize we didn’t have that much in common. So it was nice to have had the opportunity to be with him, especially considering how out of his league I thought I was when I met him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some friends with whom I talk about casual-sex adventures. They all say it was a very hot experience.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The place where we did it and the fact that he blew is shot in my mouth.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, it hasn’t. At that time I was still very inexperienced and still looked at casual sex as a way of meeting someone to have a more serious relationship with (a point of view I have since changed).

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex could and should be seen as a normal part of everyone’s sexual and social life, and that it just isn’t more talked about because of the fear people have of disapproval regarding the social values and prejudices that still dominate: that everyone should be monogamous and that sex and love are one and the same.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it and think it might be useful to deconstruct the prejudices I referred above. I like to read especially other men’s stories as many of them are quite exciting.

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