What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Free Sprit
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? >30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 4
Encounter With A Store Owner
How long ago did this hookup happen? A few days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? No hookup
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Joe (not his real name), is a married store owner. I know Joe is married because I’ve seen his wife helping out on occasion. He’s probably in his 60’s, thin, and has gray hair. My boyfriend’s hobby is drones and I go with him to Joe’s store often. My first impression of Joe is a grouchy old man. I’ve seen him be that way to others. He’s always been nice to me and my boyfriend, but I like to wear shorts, heels, and wink at him when he checks me out. One day, Joe’s wife was not at the store and my boyfriend was taking a long time deciding on what to buy. Joe was checking out my butt and legs so I started flirting with him. My boyfriend teased me and said, “I think you are the only person in the world Joe is nice to.”
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My boyfriend’s birthday was coming up and I wanted to get him a nice gift for putting up with me this long. I knew Joe’s store closed at 3 pm on Saturday and I waited until 2:45 pm to arrive. I was wearing my normal attire: halter crop top, denim mini, and heels. The store was empty and Joe helped me with some ideas. He told me his wife was at home and we were alone. I was extra flirty as I stretched to get something from the top shelf. His eyes were focused on me and I was loving the attention. I noticed a clock on the wall said 3 pm. I apologized for taking so long and he insisted I take my time as he locked the front door and put up a “Closed” sign.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He came back to help me and I got on my knees and unbuckled his belt, then his jeans and pulled them to the floor. He was not groomed and his penis soft and small. I was beginning to think I’d made a mistake. I thought he should have been hard and ready by the way he was lusting after me. I began to use my hand to see if I could get some movement. I looked up at him as I stroked. I felt him getting hard and I began sucking. He told me he was close and I let him finish on my chest. I went to the bathroom to clean up. I asked if he wanted to have sex & he turned down the offer because he was not a young man anymore. I understood. I didn’t want him to feel bad so I gave him a kiss on the cheek and asked for a rain check. He finally squeezed my butt and agreed.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I made my purchase and Joe tried to tell me it was on sale. I insisted on paying full price. I told Joe I’m not the type of girl that gives a blowjob for a discount. It was a something I wanted to do because I thought he was a sexy man. He had a big smile on his face as I left.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My boyfriend. He gave me a fist pump. We’re open in our relationship and he’s cool as long as I share details and use protection.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Putting a smile on an old man’s face.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We didn’t get to have sex, but I fully understood.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’m a sexual person and I love experiencing new things.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? My boyfriend insists I hook-up with Joe soon. I told my boyfriend he can arrange it for me. LOL
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Society puts a negative tone on casual sex. Since I started having casual sex, it’s made me feel like a better person. Sex is fun and something people should be open to having with anyone.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoy sharing my experiences on this forum. My boyfriend insists I post new encounters too. LOL
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