What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40ish
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Two days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this couple while traveling. We got along really well and would often spend evenings having dinner together at the end of the day. He (F) was tall, blond, reserved, considerate, quietly confident. (L) was short with dark hair, pretty eyes, great smile, outgoing. I grew fond of her quickly and at some point became aware they had an open relationship. I came to respect their openness and honesty with each other and others.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We planned to meet for dinner on the weekend before we left. I booked a nice restaurant and we shared a pleasant meal. At one point, she touched my leg with intent, and I knew that the fantasies I had briefly entertained for a few weeks had some foundation, but didn’t dwell on it. We went out for a few drinks then went to their hotel.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were sat together on the couch, with L between F and I. During a lull in the conversation, L asked, “Would you like to have some fun?” I could tell what she meant by the look she gave me, but I made an awkward comment in reply and the moment almost passed from kinky to confused. F saved the moment by promptly grabbing L’s face, kissing her passionately then moving her face toward mine. We kissed deeply, tongues exploring each other, and I felt a wave of relief(?) that I would share this experience with them.
As L and I kissed, I could sense F’s hands exploring L’s body, grabbing her arse and breasts. I began to explore L’s body myself as she found my developing hard-on. She quickly released me from my pants and began sucking, with F providing verbal encouragement, then pushing L’s head down hard on my cock. Reaching for L’s pussy, it was clear she was quite turned on and F removed my pants.
Eventually, L lay back and F and I took turns eating her pussy or kissing her breasts and lips. I wasn’t sure how much contact F would be comfortable with, so restrained myself to reaching for his cock through his briefs, or grabbing his legs and arse. Before long she told F that she wanted to fuck me and we paused briefly to remove the rest of our clothes before moving to the bedroom.
F handed me a condom and L bent over on the bed. I entered her from behind while F masturbated or kissed and fondled L. Turning over to missionary, I grabbed F’s cock and masturbated him briefly, but I got the impression that wasn’t the focus for this evening, so I turned my attention back mostly to L.
We paused at some point, restarted, but L got tired as it was extremely late and we had all drunk quite a bit, so I left to let them recover and sleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt content and honored to have enjoyed a sexual experience with a couple who clearly loved and respected each other. We ended up meeting for lunch, then having a repeat the following evening.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Noone else. We debriefed at lunch the following day.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Open sexual experience with two people I liked and respected.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. It was a shame we started so late that we got too tired to finish.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I prefer sexual experiences with people I connect to but think people should be less concerned about monogamy.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love reading about other people’s different experiences with casual sex.
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