by Fili Busta
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Prague, Czech Republic
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Simply heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? A month
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A girl with Bulgarian origins from Canada that I met on my Erasmus. We didn’t know each other almost at all before our first hookup. Before the hookup, I wasn’t really enthusiastic about her, but she was nice.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began at a cocktail reception, with both of us quite drunk. We then moved to a friend’s place, flirting heavily in the meantime. There, we drank a lot of water to get in shape. I suggested moving to my place, but there was first some miscommunication plus hesitation on her side. But as the night got longer, we decided to walk to my place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? On the first night, we kissed a lot. I also licked and fingered her. She wasn’t yet comfortable with going further. She was rather quiet most of the time which was a bit unsettling but she also made clear that she is enjoying herself. Her kissing skills were not that good and that was also a little annoying.
We then met a couple of more times afterward, always at my place and only having vaginal sex the last time that we could see each other. We did not develop much of a romantic relationship but our physical contact got more pleasant over time, at least on my side.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I did not have many expectations in the long run because we were both due to go back to our home cities soon. But after the last meetup, when we actually had vaginal sex, I think we were both quite satisfied, not only physically. Now, I am grateful for the experience but I have moved on and am looking into the future.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To some of my friends. They did not really have any strong reactions but they were all supportive.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The last time we met, the sex, the orgasm and our conversation/interaction afterwards.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Too much hair around her vagina
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I think in a way I am more confident about having casual sex next time.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am supportive of casual sex and if it is not hurting anyone, I think people should have it as often as they wish. This applies to my life as well.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Nice idea.
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