by NOYB

Gender: Female
Age: 32
Race/ethnicity: Biracial
Location: Kentucky
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Healthcare
Relationship status: Single ready to mingle
Religious affiliation: NA
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Ex BF’s Co-Worker

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years

How would you best classify this hookup? booty call/FWB

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I initially met him through my ex-bf, they work together, but did not really get to know him until much later after I broke up with the ex. I was out at a bar with mutual friends and he was there and started flirting with me, eventually getting my phone number. I liked him, I thought he was charming, cute, and had a nice smile.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at my house, we hung out a few times prior and talked for several hours about everything (our lives, where we went to high school, grew up, my ex, his ex). We were watching a movie and drinking beer. The hookup wasn’t planned, but we both knew in the backs of our minds we would be getting it on eventually. He instigated because I don’t have the balls to make the first move, ever. The hookup began with some heavy touching.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had sex and exchanged oral. He wasn’t the greatest at giving oral, but loved the way I gave head. He was kind of rough, which I liked. Light choking, forced my head to his dick, and pounded me hard. He got off and I rode him while I played with my clit and got off too. Afterwards he was very sweet, he pulled me in close and then kissed me on my forehead. We just talked about our lives some more. It was nice, I liked him just enough to get it on with him and hang out, but did not have any desire to date him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? oral birth control

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I broke up with my ex, I was horny, he was available

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Beer, 3-4.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He’s the perfect booty call!!! I feel the same about him as the first time we messed around. He’s a good time, we hang out with his non-work friends on occasion. Most time we just hang out at my house. We usually will just text each other late night when we want to get it on. Our hook ups used to happen more frequently, but our schedules are different and I have a new hook up. I had a boyfriend in between and we stopped messing around, but once my bf and I broke up the booty call and I picked up where we left off.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve told several friends. They think it’s great that I have carefree, unattached sex.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Both of us consented.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, we still hook up on occasion to this day.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing is having someone who will have sex with and feel comfortable with them and then I love how he will kiss me on my forehead and want to cuddle some. It’s like having a bf only when I want one. The worst thing is he’s not great at oral and sometimes his aggressiveness is a bit much for me. I have had casual sex in the past, but not on a long term basis. It just works for us, we keep in contact, but neither of us has these crazy relationship feelings about each other. Or at least that’s what he has led me to believe.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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