What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 55
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My ex wife of 3 years now. Extremely sexy, curvy with full lips to die for and smoking hot muscular legs. Sexuality drips off her. We divorced because she drove me nuts sexually, rarely delivered, and because of financial matters. We have kids together, so there’s still frequent contact. We try and get along as best we can.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She asked me to help with some yard work while the kids were at friend’s houses one weekend. I did (we still own the home together) and we got along fine. When we were done, she suggested we go out to dinner together. I agreed and we went in the house. She said she had to shower and when she came out of the bathroom, she had a towel around her and was drying her hair with another. She just looked at me, dropped the towels and got into bed. “Take your clothes off” was all she said. I was kind of shocked and said so, because she’s never this direct. She said “I’ve known you for years and I know what you’ve been thinking about. Let’s go”. She excites me madly, so I got in bed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Deep, wet, tongue kisses at first. She kisses like no other woman I’ve been with and has the most sensuous full lips. She makes me hard in no time. This led to some mutual fondling and then oral. She gives fantastic head and when she warms up, can deepthroat me. This drives me nuts. She takes me in and pulls my ass cheeks to get all of me in her throat. After taking as much of that as I could without cumming, I pulled her on top of me. She’s not a big fan of this, but she complied with gusto that day. She knows it drives me crazy when she bites me gently and she was biting my lips and neck, giving me shivers. Holding me down and feasting on my neck makes me feel a little subservient and totally turns me on. I finally rolled her off me, climbed on top and began fucking her. She can’t cum from vaginal intercourse and she loves when I cum quick. She clamped her muscular legs over mine and squeezed, holding me down. She kept pulling my hair and biting my neck and in a few minutes I had a fantastic orgasm. I rolled off, she went to clean up and came back for her turn. I went down on her until she came and we went to dinner.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We went to one of our favorite places and had a great dinner. No regrets or expectations. We’ve had sex on and off since the divorce and being neither of us has any desire to marry again, we’ll have sex again. I’ll always love her and she feels the same, but we just can’t live together. Our sexual chemistry is off the charts, but she has NO problem pushing me away when she doesn’t want it. BIG reason behind the divorce.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Submission / Relinquishing power, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only my best friend, who died in an accident shortly after. He just thought it was strange that we still hook up on occasion.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? All of it, but her oral is out of this world. I’m so attracted to her, she can wink at me and I get hard. Feeling submissive was great, also. She knows all the buttons to push to get me off.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing at all.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. I’m divorced now and I like being able to do whatever (and whomever) I please.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? If it happened more often, we’d probably still be married.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s a way of life for me now. I have no plans to remarry.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very cool!
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