What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? none
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5 – 2 guys, 3 girls
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Experimenting with a Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, blue eyes, thin, light brown hair, white, smart. We met in year 1 and over the years became better friends. I had never felt anything for him we were just best friends until year 6 were we touched each other, but that didn’t go anywhere until we started doing it again in year 8 a year after that this story starts.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were in the woods walking around, not doing much but it was normal for us to not say anything before we got to the place we “got it on” it was a small secluded bit of the woods near a stream.He asked if I wanted to do stuff with him I said yes and we began.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We began by taking each others’ trousers off and we began to rub each others’ penises through our boxers.We were both hard and quickly we took off our boxers and began to jerk off. He was the slightly larger of the two of us and soon asked if I would jack him. I had a firm grip around his member and pleasured him thoroughly before his warm hand went around mine.He began to blow me his mouth nearly fully covering my penis.We had done all of this before but then he asked, “do you want to do, like the butt stuff?” I was surprised but I did say yes and he volunteered to go first. So he got onto his hands and knees and spread his butt cheeks wide and I stuck my penis in him, every thrust I could feel me getting deeper until I came inside him.That is how I lost my virginity.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After I came we got our clothes back on and life went back to normal. He did the same to me two weeks later. I never really wanted to date him. It was nice though to have someone you can have sex with when is reasonable.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, We were 14 we didn’t really have anything to fear although we would use a condom later on in other occasions.

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Peer pressure

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one I didn’t want anyone at school finding out.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That anal was great even if it was in the woods.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was slightly cold that day. nothing else.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was the first time I had actual sex so it really was good and opened me up to having sex with other guys.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Being able to cum twice inside him.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think sexual experimentation is an unspoken saint in our culture as it opens up new ideas and pleasurable experiences everyone but the most straight would refuse.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s fine.

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