What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States / Mountain West
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Technical Sales
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Exploring New Territory

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, handsome, greying (which lately I find quite a turn on), just met.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After returning from a business trip in the evening, my husband wanted to go out for a drink. It was around 10, so I agreed. We were at a new bar that was pretty quiet, we happened to meet a couple of guys with a lovely foreign accent. With a bit of chatting, we learned they were in town for a few days on a search for good show. My husband is gregarious, and within minutes was engaged with one, discussing monetary policy or something like that. The other one somehow intrigued me, I can’t put a finger on it. He was handsome and seemed sensitive and intelligent, but there was something that particularly caught my attention – chemistry? We moved on to a whiskey bar, and conversation continued. They were looking for mischief, so after some time we somehow agreed to join them at a college bar where music was playing. As we left and walked toward the college bar, I briefly thought that maybe I would realize my threesome fantasy, but that would require ditching the ‘economic’ friend, and anyway it was a crazy idea so I quickly dismissed it.

I wanted to dance, and my husband sensed that I wanted to dance with our new friend, so my husband continued the monetary discussion (or whatever that was…) and I headed out onto the crowded dance floor. I might have been a bit naughty – as occasion permitted, grinding a bit and enjoying my dance partner’s body.

We shut down the place, and as we left, my husband picked up that I was very turned on – while he knew that my dance partner had turned me on, my husband was going to be the beneficiary, so was fine with it. We went home and had great sex. I think my husband whispered something about my threesome fantasy, but I just laughed it off.

The next day we arranged to join our new friends for dinner, but the economic guy met a girl (Tinder?) and skipped out on us, so I found myself at dinner with two handsome men, eating great food, sipping wine, and looking across the table at my husband and new friend, and again flitting to thoughts of a threesome.

After dinner we again went out looking for music to dance to, and this time I alternated between dancing with my husband and dancing with our friend, but I think my husband knew what I really wanted, so pulled our friend onto the dance floor putting me in a sort of sandwich. Somewhere in there our friend must have picked up on my thoughts, as he asked ‘so where is this going?’ to which my husband answered firmly “she’s in charge.” I just smiled. A little after midnight I suggested we leave, and we offered to drive our friend to his hotel. My husband quietly asked me “do you want to see where this can go?” I indicated ‘yes’, but only if he was OK…he assured me he was OK, so off we went. When we got to the hotel our friend invited us to come up for a drink, and again my husband quietly checked to confirm what I wanted…I affirmed and we proceeded.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went to his room, opened a couple of beers, and settled in. As I went to the bathroom, my husband confirmed that our friend had condoms. I later learned that our friend asked ‘so how is this going down, are you going to sit back and watch me fuck your wife? – I’m not gay…” My husband assured he is also straight, but explained that I had this long running fantasy of being with two guys at once. Our friend agreed that MMF sounded like fun, although none of us had done anything like this before. My husband and I communicate well, and our new friend seemed sensitive and a good communicator, so being that we were open to experimentation, we proceeded to see where the evening would lead. My husband took the position that he was there to play, to facilitate, and to enjoy, but this evening was my fantasy and he made sure the experience was about me. He stood back a bit as I pulled our friend in for some introductory kisses, and moved onto the bed.

I was wearing thigh-high boots of glove leather, so my husband slid up my dress to remove one boot, directing our friend to remove the other, caressing and enjoying my legs along the way. This helped to break the ice, and our friend returned to kissing me on the mouth and exploring. I tend to want to get to the point, and really wanted to feel his dick in my mouth. After a few minutes of caressing, I had his pants open and my wish granted. As my husband stroked my legs and watched, I kissed, sucked, and played with the first ‘new’ dick I had tasted in more than 10 years.

Before long, clothes were off and my husband moved up to play with my boobs and kiss my face while our friend began to kiss my pussy. I love pussy kisses, and having two guys admiring, caressing, and kissing my body at once was sublime. I felt a sort of rolling orgasm, but was surprised I wasn’t climaxing – probably nerves.

My husband knows my signals pretty well, so when he sensed I wanted to move on, he directed our friend to “suit up”. Within seconds he had a condom on, and was entering me. The excitement of ‘new’ totally turned me on, and he was a great lover – very attentive, but also strong and firm. We worked through a variety of positions; missionary & legs up, doggy, prone, and of course cowgirl with me reaching back to play with his balls. Somewhere in there I finally got to realize my fantasy of one guy fucking me while another kisses my boobs and plays with my pussy. When the action got bouncy, my husband would hold my boobs, moving with the rhythm. Our friend is rather tall and strong, so could throw me around; sometimes being a rag doll feels wonderful. From time to time when the position allowed, I would reach for my husband’s dick and take it in my mouth. Somehow my MMF fantasies never included spit-roast, so I was a little surprised at how much I enjoyed the real thing! One dick in my pussy, another in my mouth – I was a very happy girl.

After something like an hour of playing and fucking, I had enjoyed a few rolling orgasms but none of us had really climaxed. My husband took over, and within a few minutes brought me to a climax in missionary position. He knows I love taking him from behind, so he switched around to a spooning position, and kept me going as I played with our friend. Pretty quickly my husband and I were flying to a climax together, and then blissfully exhausted. We paused, had some beer, and cuddled a little, all the while playing a bit. There were kisses here and there, two great guys enjoying my body, and fingers in my pussy. Still our friend needed to cum, so my husband proceeded to busy himself kissing my pussy while I helped our friend masturbate, finally bringing him to a climax all over my boobs.

Exhausted and happy, we cleaned up, dressed, and with promises to meet for skiing the next morning, headed home.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Waking up in the morning it felt like a strange but wonderful dream. My husband asked ‘was that real?’…and within minutes we were having wakeup sex. Meeting our friend and his buddy for skiing a few hours later was surreal, but great fun. When there was a moment, he checked in with me to be sure that I was doing well, and that my husband was also OK. I appreciated his sensitivity – a great guy. A perfect first threesome, I hope not the last.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Sterilization, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody except my husband who was involved (see above)

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Ecstasy of letting go and being wanted and had by two men at once, within a safe environment.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Lack of repeat…

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Surprised that I could enjoy casual sex like this – forces me to rethink things…when I can think at all 😉

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Wondering if there is a repeat in my future, with this or another set of partners.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has led to some troubles, but also led to my present husband, and some great times. Society needs to better recognize womens’ libido.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Wonderful project, nice to see other peoples’ stories and know that I’m not alone.

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