What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Austria
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Blogger
What’s your current relationship status? Relationship is over, in the middle of separating
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I don’t like to use a term, people are either sexual or they are not.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Fasted Quickie Ever
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was at a club. He caught my eye, for somehow he did not fit in. He looked eccentric, not really present, kinda cute, and therefore fascinated me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He was dancing alone. After a drink or two I decided to go him and dance in front of him. Not much later we sat down and got to talk. I don’t remember much of our conversation. I am pretty sure he was on some sort of drug. Still, it was fun to chat with him. I had a good time. At some point we kissed and grabbed each other all over. He took my hand and placed it on his lap, I liked what I felt but then he quickly pushed my hand away again. He did this a few times. Kinda weird but in retrospect I think I know why. After a while he asked if I wanted to go outside with him. He knew places where we could have sex and he said he would lick my pussy. It was already quite late and I was actually ready to go home. Then he asked if I rather wanted to go to his place. I had some doubts for I was quite turned on, but said no. I did not feel so comfortable going home with a stranger. Then he asked if I had ever had sex on the toilet. In fact, I had not. So just for the hack of it, a new experience, I let him persuade me to go fuck on the ladies toilet at the club.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He took my hand and led me to the toilet. He paid the toilet lady some money and in we went. After we had closed the door he asked me if I wanted to give him a blowjob. I didn’t – I don’t do that with someone I don’t know at least a little bit – and said: no, I want you to fuck me.
He got a condom out of his pocket but I prefer using mine, so I gave him one of my stash. He pulled my shirt and bra up, my pants down. I turned around and bent forward while he put on the condom. Once he entered me, it felt really good. I remember thinking this could be pleasant. He thrusted three times and pulled his penis out. I thought something was wrong, but he was already finished. He had not made a sound!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He got dressed up and got out. I cleaned up a bit and expected him to be gone, but he was actually waiting for me outside the bathroom. He took my hand and we went back to the dance floor. We danced some more, kissed and cuddled and then I went home. No exchange of telephone numbers or anything.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Having a new experience
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Not sure
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend was there. I told her straight away. We both thought it was funny 🙂
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I don’t really regret it. In fact I still think it was rather funny. I just wished it had been more exciting and fulfilling.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Doing something I had never done before: having sex on the toilet of a club.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it only lasted 3 seconds.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, not in the least. I think the idea of casual, spontaneous sex is cooler than the actual experience, though. For one because men in a hookup situation don’t bother much to pleasure the woman.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it is very good to go after casual sex if that is what you want. It would be nice if men would bother a bit more. Even if he gets off quickly, he can do other stuff to make the experience worth while for her as well. It is strange to me that many men don’t care, because I believe making sure the girl you are having sex with has a good time increases the pleasure for him as well… I also think women should not be scared to demand that he doesn’t leave you high and dry. But in the heat of the moment one might not be so assertive. I certainly wasn’t, for I was simply too surprised by his complete silence and how quick the quickie turned out to be.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love the idea otherwise I would not have shared my story here. Keep on going and get some relevant numbers and information!
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