What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Halifax, Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Sync Agent
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 60
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was volunteering with a Music festival and met him on the final day – we were working together. He was totally my type, tall-ish, brunette, beard, funny guy, into music (typical I know). I was definitely attracted to him right off the bat and I could tell he felt the same about me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met up at the Music festival’s closing party that night, which involved a lot of drinking. I invited him but he initiated the first kiss.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We did everything. I sat on his face, gave him head and had intercourse. We were both really into it and if I can recall correctly – it was rough and there was a lot of dirty talk involved.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Oh man. The morning after I was supposed to be back at my hotel for 8AM to leave with my classmates (this was my final year of college and we all volunteered in the festival). I guess I shut my alarm off when it initially went off because I woke up to 10 missed calls from my classmates AND my teacher. Finally my teacher reached me and said he was coming to pick me up because a bus full of FIFTY students were waiting on me. I left buddy’s hotel room in a hurry – in my dress and ripped tights from the night before (along with my underwear in my purse) and had to get in the car with my teacher who knew exactly what had happened. Anyway, my classmates had packed my bag for me.. and when I walked on the bus you better believe I was greeted by the applause of fifty students. Humiliating but I also owned it like a bad ass. I also realized I had left my fav leather jacket in the hotel room with my hookup, who I messaged to bring it back but he did not oblige..so I had to call the hotel and have to pay for the shipping back to my city myself. Good times.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A lot of my friends.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? I found out he had a girlfriend at the time of the hookup after the fact.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The spontaneity of it.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I forgot to shave..
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex – as long as proper protection is involved – is great. There doesn’t always need to be a huge emotional attachment to each hookup, sometimes you just need to get your rocks off, both men and women! I think women need to stop ‘slut shaming’ other women, men too, but women need to stand together and acknowledge the fact that casual sex is a normal, healthy activity to partake in.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s awesome
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