What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? California
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? IT
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Fiance In Jail
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I randomly saw her pic on facebook and said Hi to her and she replied back, we chatted for 2 days
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After chatting 2 days on facebook She asked me to come meet her to see if we’d vibe. She was 18 and I was 36 but I told her I was 28. She said she didn’t have a boyfriend. I drove to burger king by her house and she walked over to meet me and she got in my truck and we said hi and i leaned over to kiss her and next thing I know she’s got my dick out and rubbing it so we drove behind the grocery store in the parking lot and fucked in the back on the bed of my truck for a while then a car came so we went to a park by her house and fucked some more on a bench that was on a path that was over looking the city. She had to get home so I busted a nut and assumed that would be the last time we spoke but we ended up seeing each other all day every day for 6 months until her fiance was released from jail and she had to pretend she didn’t know me and I was most upset by the fact I didn’t know our last fuck was the last one and I didn’t get to do a final destruction on her but in the end we both lied to each other about shit to fuck each other.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Everything but she was adamant that I go nowhere near her asshole, where as most other girls will say no but 20 min into erotic sex don’t even notice my finger has been all the way inside and outside their butthole and into my mouth several times.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? 6 months more until she had to start fucking her fiance, that she didnt mention to me, again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish, Hallucinogens (LSD, mushrooms, DMT…)
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish, Hallucinogens (LSD, mushrooms, DMT…)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The conscious experience of sharing love and time with someone randomly. The fact she was 18 and loved marijuana and i happened to own a marijuana dispensary didn’t hurt either. She knew being naked and wanting sex when i did equaled to her obtaining endless amounts of the best weed in California. Likewise I knew if i kept her happy with weed she’d never say no to sex. Win / Win
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it didn’t end after one night and went on for 6 months. I got addicted to the routine and good times. Finding out she could never fuck me again and could never talk about it or acknowledge what we shared together was the worst part. I had assumed we’d just slow down and be friends who fucked like once a month and talk about when we first met at burger king and how we have a special bond.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No i still think sex is cool as fuck and keeps people from being depressed, it triggers reward systems, it builds our character and its great exercise
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Social Media has given me the platform to casually fuck about 9 different amazing girls.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome
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