What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 62
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? BiCurious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 31 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I am Poly. I will call her Mono. She was very critical about my appearance, conduct and the perfume I had used. I was 38 and she was 20. She was very talkative and commenting about how I look and how I stink! That very attitude attracted me to her even more. I am wheatish in color she was darker.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One time she intentional/accidentally bumped into me and I found her bum in my hands. It was very soft! She was a far relative and the incident happened when I was visiting her parents. After that I kept following her and she suddenly became silent. When she went into her room, I followed her. “What’s that stink you put on?” I held her shoulders turned towards me and gave a firm but quick and soft kiss on her lips. Then I turned back and left the room to go and sit in the hall with the others.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The hookup was not planned. Another day, I was just walking into the city bus station intending to go to a city 90 miles away, when I bumped into her along with her aunt and two kids. We exchanged greetings and revealed what we were up to. Then suddenly she said, “I am coming with you” and told her aunt to inform her parents that she is going to meet friends in that city. Then I changed my plan. Instead of going to that city and waste six hours up and down, I chose to visit the nearest hill resort 27 miles away. We took a bus. Her attitude had changed. She was talking in low tones, inquisitive, smiling eyes, with confidence. I pushed her to the window of a two-seater and held her soft right arm. She was looking at me from the corners of her eyes with head bent forward and a hidden smile. In my family, I was known to be a tough guy doing exactly what I decided to do irrespective of what the traditions and accepted norms were. There were no mobile phones or laptops at this time. After one hour, we landed at the resort and took up a room. As soon as the door was closed, we found ourselves in arms with uncontrolled bondage! It followed with a long kiss. No perfume on me this time. She asked me about the stink. I told her I was in a hurry to leave home in the morning after showering. She said she did not have time to shower and would go for it now. We had no mobile phones to get distracted. She started to undress and I mimicked her piece by piece. She was nude and I was in my underwear with an uncontrolled pulsating hardness. It was her first experience. She was staring at it. I was staring at her small but firm bump hills and smooth valley. I could not stop my tongue reaching out to lick the valley while my hands grabbed on to bigger bumps on her lower back recalling the feeling of the last accidental bump. Only this time there was no dress to obstruct the warm, soft feeling of a direct touch. I could not stop my fingers from giving them a rhythmic squeeze to an inaudible music in the air. Then my focus shifted to a deeper hairy valley inching towards my lips. My tongue popped out to lick and an “Ohhh…” oozed out from her deep throat, with her eyes closed. My lips and her labia stood in attention touching each other in warm wet greeting while my tongue went to honor her clit with sideways hugs and in circles. Lubrication started to flow in from her deep fort to the gates. Down there, Mr. Hardon was doing Left-Right standing steps in anticipatory energetic pulsations.
After a long interactive intimate hug, swallowing the juices from her fort, my lips slowly crawled out upwards to meet the valley between shining smooth hillocks on her rhythmically rising and falling chest. My hands slowly slid over to her butt. My focus now shifted entirely to her pair of hillocks with erect mounts asking attention. As my lips went to greet hers, Mr. Hardon found his way to the hairy valley and greeted her Queen Clit. I was not sure if it was her first entry and was frantically looked for a hint by searching into her eyes that were mostly closed and opened at moments of excitement. She was virgin. I wanted to stop. But she wouldn’t let me! Mr. Hardon gently made his way into Queen Clit’s fort and stopped only after the bloody drill soaked in red, still in full erection. All this happened while we were on our feet preparing to go for a shower.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We went back to our city on a bus and talked about what happened. I apologized for robbing her virginity. She said it was a memorable gift that she will always enjoy. I was deeply worried about her possible pregnancy. I asked when she had last had a period. To my great relief, she said it was due in the next three days! I kissed her on the bus. Kissing in public in our culture in those days was a taboo. Some people were staring at us.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more confident, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Just happened, I don’t know why just went along with it, Quest for adventure
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Not at all
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To none. It is between us like a treasure.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was natural and impromptu. We were naturally protected from possible consequences. Our relationship became a secret strength.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was not planned.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes! I think it is not a crime as long as we / I have not hurt anyone. Had I or she shared it with our spouses, we would possibly hurt them. I am aware of my spouse is an integral part of my existence and shall never hurt her by letting my nails grow that can scratch her sensitive parts and rob her of pleasure. I’m glad and grateful to my partner of this hookup that she maintains the same stand in honoring her marital relationship.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We are lucky to carry over this nostalgia.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? As long as you respect, value and honor your relationships, open and private, you have the right to enjoy your life the way it comes to you! Honesty need not be voluntary. If it is asked, we must be courageous to be honest.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It gave me an opportunity to share and learn feedback from society. Will be anxious to learn more from readers.
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