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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? British Columbia
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Self Employed
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 200+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met at work, was the most confident girl I had ever met. She was smart, funny, beautiful and caring. Long dark hair, mischievous smile and amazing soft curves. I was attracted to everything about her. I was excited when we became friends.

He had been a friend of mine for about 6 months and we we’re friends with benefits for a month before that. He was tall, dark hair and a slim build. We met at my other job.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We flirted with each other constantly and spent a fair amount of time together. After awhile I decided to confess that I thought I was bi sexual. We had cuddled a couple times, but nothing sexual. One day she asked if I wanted to have a threesome with a guy I was banging at the time. I agreed and after a lot of tequila for courage it happened 🙂

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We walked into her bedroom and she started kissing him. Watching them was a huge turn on. She then kissed me, she was aggressive and pulled my hair. It was the very first time I’d kissed a girl, it felt so much softer and ridiculously natural. We both reached for him, I went straight for his belt and ended up breaking it in my excitement. After more kissing between all of us, a bit of light kink (biting, hair pulling, domination from them towards me) for awhile and us girls giving him oral together, it was time for me to touch a pussy for the first time. She was well groomed and she was so wet my fingers just slipped in. She was giving him oral and he was watching me, I decided to just go for it and I started kissing my way up her thigh with my fingers inside her, as my kisses made their way to her pussy I pulled out my fingers and put my mouth on her pussy. I was terrified, excited and had no idea what I was doing! I tried a few things until I’d found a good rhythm. I found out the wrong way that not all ladies like nibbles on their clit, like I do. All of this went on for about 4 hours that night, it ended with all of us spent in a cuddle puddle. I couldn’t have asked for a better first time with a girl. It was a really important moment in my life.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We woke up still feeling affectionate towards each other. We had another quick threesome. He left shortly after and she made me breakfast. I wasn’t sure what I’d wanted at time I was just excited. We still talk sometimes. I still think about being with her every time I see her. I miss the passion we shared.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, IUD (Intrauterine device), Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I didn’t talk to anyone about it until years later.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Finally being able to be true to myself and allowing myself to follow my attraction.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The nibble, but it was just a bit funny.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes! It changed everything.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex can be a really healthy thing if you do it in a way that leaves you feeling respected, happy and safe.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s really interesting. I enjoy reading others experiences and outlooks on different kinds of hookups.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!