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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1 now
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Finally Let A Friend Blow Me

How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She’s a white female. Tall-ish for a woman (probably like 5’8 or so), a real gym nut so she’s very fit. D cup breasts and somehow has spotless skin. Her hair was medium length and a dark brown color. We’ve been classmates in the same major for a couple of years now, we first met in a REALLY boring class where we just kinda talked quietly to each other and hoped the professor didn’t notice. So we were friends, but didn’t really spend much time out of class hanging out. She and I were pretty chill, I think she may have had a crush on me at some point but it was lowkey if she did.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She’s one of those girls that are REALLY into oral sex, and she found out that I had actually never done oral with a girl before probably like a year ago. So she’s offered it multiple times, but I said no because I was pursuing some other girl at the time. This morning, we were texting and I made a casual joke about morning wood and what a pain it is for guys. She asked if I “needed help with it,” and offered to come to my place and blow me. For once I wasn’t really into any girl and I was really horny, so I said yes, and she came over a few hours later. My roommate was gonna be busy all day with classes so we had the place to ourselves.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We talked a bit casually and then went into a hot makeout session. We stripped each other down slowly while making out for like an hour. Honestly might’ve given each other hickeys. We had agreed it wouldn’t go past oral because of pregnancy concerns (she’s not on any birth control). I got fully naked and she kept her panties on but took everything else off. We obviously felt each other up and she was really into nipple play (not gonna lie sucking those D cup breasts was really nice). I could feel her pussy getting wetter on my legs. It took me a while to get hard, but when I did we put on a condom and she put her mouth on it and holy shit it was amazing. She sucked the tip while holding me firm at the base of my dick and then started deepthroating me. I don’t know if she just didn’t have a gag reflex or what but it felt great – I had to angle my dick a little in her mouth so it wouldn’t ram into her palate at the back. She blew me for like 30 minutes before she finally got tired (I didn’t realize I would last so long). We went back to making out and heavy petting for a bit and she actually ended up having an orgasm from the friction on her vagina and the nipple play. Eventually, we got tired and then just laid down in the bed casually chatting like friends again. She got her stuff and left after that so she could get to class on time.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterward, we were totally fine, just going on as friends as usual. Part of me worries slightly that I might be rekindling her crush on me and I’m not really looking for a relationship right now, so even though the hookup was great I’m realizing now I might be leading her on and I don’t want to be an asshole like that. I want us to just be friends or friends with benefits at most. I meant this as a one-time thing but she left her condoms at my place “for next time,” which I think means she wants to do this again. She’s a great friend and gives amazing head, but I don’t wanna abuse any feelings she might have for me.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t really told anyone about it yet. We’re not intentionally keeping it secret but I just don’t need to tell everyone she blew me.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Like I said earlier, I worry I might be abusing some feelings she has for me. It’s hard to tell because she really is into casual sex and she was pretty direct about her feelings last time. I might just be overreacting, but I don’t want to hurt her just for sex.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She gives amazing head, and apparently I’m the longest lasting guy she’s sucked out of a couple of dozen, so that’s a pretty nice honor.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I didn’t ever actually cum, which I’ve heard can hurt women’s feelings. She doesn’t seem like she minds so hopefully, that’s not an issue.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This was my first time having casual sex. I was always okay with it as an idea but never knew how I’d react to actually doing it. Definitely more okay with it now that I’ve done it, but I would still never do it with a complete stranger.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? She and I are on good terms, and it seems she had fun and doesn’t regret it at all. Also might happen again if everything turns out right.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is totally cool as long as everyone affected by it is actually okay with it. In this case, we were both single but I’m not quite sure how I feel about open relationships yet. It’s very good for women in particular I think and gives them a much better sense of what they like sexually and in any kind of relationship that didn’t really happen decades ago. I just wish more people were careful about using protection – I’ve heard too many of my friends have casual sex with strangers without even a condom and that would freak me out.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think this project is great and helps to destigmatize casual sex. I grew up in a religious household so I was always really uncomfortable with it as a kid, but reading people’s stories over the past couple of years has helped me to be a lot more comfortable with sexuality.

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