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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 59
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Sales
What’s your current relationship status?
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 80 or so
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

First Bi or Gay Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? It started in 7th grade

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew him well. Tall and slim and blonde

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He instigated and it lasted about a year. Just handjobs.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After we hadn’t had any sexual contact after eighth grade we hooked up at the end of our senior year in HS. I was only with and thinking about girls, had no attraction to him ever, we were just friends that had jerked each other off in grade school one summer. All summer.
He had pursued me a few times over the past four years and one night we ran into each other and he had beer so we parked in a secluded spot and drank. I knew he would give it a try since I always avoided these situations. Sure enough, he reached over and started feeling my dick and I just let him. I thought at best I’d get a hand job and at worst I would jerk him off. After it went on a minute I reached for him and he dropped his pants when I felt his dick I had to do a double take. He had gotten much larger than me. I couldn’t believe how thick it was and as I stared at it and stroked it I was overcome with the desire to suck it. First time I ever had that urge.
I went down on him and didn’t stop till he was finished coming and a minute or two after. I couldn’t believe how much I liked it. If he hadn’t pulled me up so he could suck mine I would have continued. I was so excited as soon as he took me in his mouth I had to fight it to last 30 seconds.
I felt great while doing it and guilty after. We just told each other how good it felt and we didn’t talk much more about it. We did meet up the next day.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Like I said we hooked up the next day and we went two rounds back to back. We continued to do this under the radar for five years.
Knew there was no future except amazing orgasms. He, on the other hand, was fully gay and back then no one came out. He found someone about five years later and moved away with him. He didn’t complain but he didn’t like me fucking so many women although he preferred that over someone serious since I would cut him off when that happened. Several two month love connections over those five years.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, Submission / Relinquishing power, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine, Prescription sedatives (Valium, Xanax, Diazepam, Quaaludes, Phenobarbital)

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine, Prescription sedatives (Valium, Xanax, Diazepam, Quaaludes, Phenobarbital)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? Stigma

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His big dick

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Fear of being caught.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I’m much more open.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I had more than 90 women I can remember from 1973 to 1980. No AIDS back then and it was the time of my life. At my age it now gives me drive thinking back. It was positive, everybody wants to fuck people they are attracted to, some just can’t pull the trigger. My older brother by two years only had one prior marriage, he was then and still is jealous.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good

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