What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Analyst
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met Kim on Tinder and after a few chats, we decided to grab food together. She was black, taller than I had expected, 5’11” but had all the right curves at the right space. I was a bit nervous since I had never been with a woman 15 years older than me. She also confessed that she had never been with someone as young as I was but was very excited about it. We decided to just go for a car ride instead of getting food since both of us were already full. We talked about our lives and got to know each other better. After the ride, she dropped me at my place then got out the car to hug me goodbye. After hugging me, she tried to kiss me and we had this very awkward kiss. We both laughed awkwardly and we parted ways. I later texted that I was sorry about the awkward kiss and that it caught me by accident but that I would like to show her a real kiss the next time we meet. She texted back that she would like to see that and we decided to meet again.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We planned a day to meet up and she came to pick me up at my place. We drove to her place which was 20 min away. On our way, she stopped at Waffle House to use the bathroom. As she was walking away, I noticed her big ass in the tight yoga pants that she was wearing and I became very hard. She came back and we continued to her place.
At her place, she seemed a bit nervous and then I told her that she had no reason to be. I hugged her and we kissed for a few minutes. She started undressing me then I decided to undress her. I removed her top and discovered handful tits then proceeded to remove her yoga pants. At my delightful surprise, she wasn’t wearing any underwear then I proceeded to squeeze her fat ass.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She sat on her bed and then proceeded to give me one of the best blowjobs of my life. She would hold my balls and take me in entirely. I told her to stop as I was about to cum. She lay on the bed, then I went on top of her and penetrated her. Her pussy was squeezing me in and squeezing me out, she later told that she had been doing a lot of kegel exercises. I could not hold it any longer. I asked her to go on top of me. She started riding me and I held her fat juicy ass as she was going up and down. She decided to grind very fast on my dick and activated herself so hard that I shot huge loads of cum in the condom. She continued to grind on my still hard cock until she had a loud orgasm.
We went for another round before she took me home. She was very sexual but did not seem to care much about the preliminaries. Her pussy was very wet as soon as I undressed her. She was not into cuddling but preferred penetration.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We continued talking after that and kept an ongoing FWB for a while. After a few months, she became distant and accused me of not wanting to hang out with her after I could not make it to one of the events that we had planned a week in advance. We stopped talking after that incident.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I explored my fantasy for older women.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We did not end up on good terms. I tried to explain that I had just been busy but refused to talk to me after that. I think she was ready to move on but could not tell me directly.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? People should be able to explore what they like and get to know themselves better.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is great as long as you stay protected. It’s sad that it is still stigmatized in our society.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s amazing!
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