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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 64
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 19
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Blowjob

How long ago did this hookup happen? 41

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was medium build, short dark hair, a very attractive post graduate with an “educated” accent that I found a bit intimidating and thought she was out of my league. Four of us were at a party in a student flat and she was the friend of one of the guys that I had arrived with. I knew that they had been in some sort of a relationship whilst at the university.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I don’t remember whether I spoke to her much during the party but towards the end of the evening those of us remaining all ended up sitting in a large circle on the floor chatting and drinking. This girl started looking at me during the conversations. She got up to get a drink and then came back and sat next to me. Over the next half hour or so, I must also get up to get a drink or go to the toilet and I ended up sitting somewhere different where there was a space. But she kept moving to sit back next to me. It became obvious to me (and my friend) that she was interested and he nudged me at some point and told me: “you’re in their mate.”

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She asked me if I wanted to stay the night and as the flat was quite a walk from where I was staying, I jumped at the chance. Her room had two single beds and I stripped off and got into one of them while she went into the bathroom. When she came out, she stripped off in front of me and got in beside me.

She had a fantastic figure but the lasting memory was her tits. They weren’t huge but they were unlike any previous tits that I’d been lucky enough to handle in that they stood out firmly all by themselves with no sagging. I spent ages fondling them just mesmerized at how they returned to almost the horizontal when I moved them. They would have looked stunning bra-less under a t-shirt.

We made out for a while and I tried instigating sex a few times but she told me she “couldn’t” as she was already seeing someone. However, she said she would go down on me and proceeded to give me my first blowjob, which lasted some time and was an incredible experience. I don’t think I came owing to the amount I had drunk. After a while, she got out of bed and got into the other bed and we both passed out for the night.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day was a bit hazy. I think she went to work and I walked back to my mate’s flat. I knew it was just a one-night stand but still hoped I might see her again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, It was easy/convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends the next morning and they said I was a lucky bastard.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? My first blowjob.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not being allowed to fuck her.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I went back to her flat unexpectedly the next week, hoping to hook up again but she said she wished I’d had told her I was coming over as she had made previous plans. I never saw her again but always remembered those perky tits and that blowjob.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Most of my relationships have been casual sex so I’m all for it and it has been a good experience.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great – I view it most days.

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