by Mr U

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 50
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NYC
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? School Counselor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

First College Blowjob

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1983

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Ursula was a fellow student at our small college. She and I had only been in school for a few days, and she had a single (like me — those were the days!). She was right down the hall from me, but we didn’t know each other before that afternoon. She was a bit taller than average, fit, and attractive. She had blond hair and firm, medium-sized breasts (I played with them over her shirt but never saw them).

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were in her room, chatting. I’m not sure who instigated that part — how we ended up in her room, or who made the first move — but at some point we started making out. She asked what I’d like to do, and I told her I’d like her to go down on me. I had not yet had penetrative sex but had had many blowjobs from my HS girlfriend, whom I would see several times a month.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She turned off the light, undid my pants, and started giving me head. I lay back on her bed and came in her mouth after a few minutes. She seemed fairly confident and practiced. She swallowed. Eventually we both got up and I thanked her. We stayed friendly in college and have stayed friends since, but we never fooled around again.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? For years I kicked myself for not asking to have sex with her, but ultimately it wouldn’t have changed my life in any way, and there is a good chance that she was happy with just giving me a blowjob. I also wished I could return the favor, but somehow that never came up.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I mentioned this hookup to my best friend; eventually I may have told a few other guys. My best friend was jealous but happy for me.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? My HS girlfriend — the only other person who had ever given me a blowjob — had a very different technique. I preferred Ursula’s blowjob. Better yet, she let me come in her mouth, which my HS girlfriend never did, and she swallowed, which I found extremely sexy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it only happened once! And that I didn’t get a chance to reciprocate.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me want it more, and it made me realize that college hookups could be very easy-breezy.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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