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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Unsure / Questioning
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First experience with an oder women

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 hour

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was 47 and married with kids. On her pictures she looked better than she did in real life. I met her on Tinder. I found her attractive, but felt no emotional bond.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We wrote a bit on Tinder and I confessed that I’m a virgin. She liked that. So we wrote again and decided to meetup. We both wanted it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? First I just explored her body. I felt interested, but not really aroused. Probably a bit nervous. She was nice and cared about me. Then it led to me giving her oral (also the first time and I got her to orgasm once). She was impressed and I was too. After that she tried to blow me. But I couldn’t get hard. I guess I was too much in my head. After that I tried to enter her, but couldn’t get it going. Then I used a vibrator on her and she came again. We tried again to have intercourse. I got in a bit, but couldn’t stay hard.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was fine. We decided to cancel it and both agreed to not meet again. Although we stay in contact.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one yet.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That she was caring. I got her two orgasms.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Couldn’t get hard.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I guess casual sex is not for me. I think I will try dating.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it.

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