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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Netherlands
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Fluid in both gender and orientation
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First experience

How long ago did this hookup happen? 33 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a boy from school. We entered the same highschool in september and were class mates fo the year. We weren’t really close. We were both 12 or maybe he was 13, when that year ended. He phoned me up just before the end of the year to ask whether I wanted to join him and his mother on a short camping trip. We would do some windsurfing and, well, the offer was nice, so I agreed. We were to go to a campingsite for 4 days together.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The Hookup started the first night of the camping trip. We took a stroll and then he said something like “I’m in love with you”. Almost immediately after that, he asked how I felt and when I said that I felt a bit weird, he concluded that I must be in love with him as well. Then we started making out.
I have this very strong feeling that he planned the conversation, because he was so eager to jump to the conclusion that I must be in love with him as well. After that we didn’t talk ever more about being in love.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started making out, there somewhere outdoors and after a while walked back to the tent. We shared the tent, his mother was in a caravan. There in the tent, we continued to make out again, and then we took of all our clothes and started focusing on the genitals. I don’t remember exactly what happened in which order the following hours and the following days. We did a lot of kissing, jacking off, blowing each other. When I blew him, I was horny doing it, but didn’t like the taste when he came in my mouth, so later I only had him in my mouth until he was close and made him come with my hands. I had him come all over my body and then we spread his cum all over.
When he went down on me, he didn’t mind swallowing.
We also did anal, but without any lube or rimming or fingerfucking to start with. I couldn’t receive him. He was able to receive me though, so I think in these 4 days I fucked him twice or three times, he blowed me at least 3 times, I blew him a few times until he was close, finishing him off by hand.
I felt a bit guilty that I wasn’t able to either receive him or give him a blowjob until he came.
After the camping trip we hooked up a few more times that summer, at his place. Then after the holidays we were not in the same class any longer and we didn’t see each other very often. We didn’t hook up any more except for one time a few years later, we had an afternoon hookup after we met just that day (he had then changed to another school).

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? During the camping trip we were on a sexual high all time. Later I felt confused whether or not this would mean that I’m gay (though we already on the first making out both concluded to be bisexual).

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends and most of my partners later. Most were very comforting in the sense that they didn’t bother about having my first sexual encounters with a same sex partner. One thought that the other boy had tricked me into it, well, I enjoyed it very much, so I don’t mind if he set it all up. (I don’t think he was in love with me like he said)

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having a continuing sexfeast for 4 days where we experimented all we could think of.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Wondering whether this would mean that I’m gay.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I never thought of casual sex as something to be avoided, so, no.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? In general, I’m open minded and positive on casual sex. I don’t have moral objections towards it. But I do consider a moral obligation to my partners. By that I mean that when in one or more a committed relationships, I prefer to be open about other partners and on what safer sex practices we agree to use (and stick to these).

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it!

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