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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 52
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? government
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I contacted a woman on a dating site, and we met for drinks within the week. I was curious, not knowing what she really looked like (no body photos or how old the pictures were). We met in a wine bar, chatted for a while, and had a good conversation about current events and interests. I thought she was interesting.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After a couple of drinks and some food, we went outside and kissed a little. She said I could come back to come back to her place, and I thought it was worth a try. Her kid was with a babysitter, so I followed her home and waited until the babysitter left. He was asleep, apparently.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went straight to her room, closed the door, and got undressed. There were candles and a big bed. She was bigger than any woman I’ve dated, and hairier. I decided it would be fine to just mess around, not worry about what she thought, so I threw myself into it right away. I didn’t want to kiss, or give her oral, so I just started feeling her up and got her wet. I kept at it until she opened up and I kept at it until I could get my finger inside, and kept going until I got my hand inside her. She was liking it, and squirted all over. I put on a condom but it was awkward so I took it off, went in, pumped a few times and came. We kept at it a bit more, and then it was over. I left soon afterwards.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was OK with it. She seemed OK too. We tried to meet up again for a drink but it never worked out.

I ended up with a viral infection that lasted a month and ruined a planned vacation because I couldn’t go shirtless. I had to admit to my doctor about unprotected casual sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one, ever.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I was exposed to viral infections for the first time.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Almost total anonymity and no obligations.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Knowing the kid was in the next room and the viral infection.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Think about the quality of the person you are meeting. A hookup can mean they are bad news.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve had a few one-night stands, some better than others. Mostly good, but the second date usually doesn’t work out.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great!

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!