What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 55
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Sydney
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Sales
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? First one
First FMF Experience
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2001
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? One of the women, T, was my partner. We were both recently separated from long, sexless marriages. We’d had a short affair, realised we both had high libidos, were both miserable in our marriages and decided we’d become a couple and together do all the things we’d fantasised about. Between her leaving her husband and me leaving my wife, she had an ongoing fuck buddy from her work; she’d call me while he was fucking her so I could listen to her moaning and being pounded.
She is also bi and this hookup was with her and a close female friend who she’d had drunken sex with in the past. I’d spoken to this girl, M, on the phone but never met her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? T had a Tupperware party at her place. I’d been out with mates; by the time I got there only T and M were still there, drinking champagne and dancing, music cranked up and very tipsy. T was normally quite shy but after a few champers became very flirty/horny. This was the first time I met M; she was short, dark haired with lovely full breasts (almost her first words to me the first time we spoke on the phone were “my breasts are larger than T’s’) and tiny butt. T was blonde, a little taller and curvier.
I knew the girls had previously had sex a few times, knew what T was like when tipsy and knew that M, who was married, really had the hots for T. So right from the start I was hopeful of something happening and actively encouraged them.
I grabbed a drink, sat in a chair and told the girls to dance for me
T stood in front of me doing that sexy swaying, rolling their butt thing only girls can do, while staring at me with her tipsy/bedroom eyes. M was behind her running her hands up and down T’s body, cupping her breasts through her dress and kissing her neck. I told M to take off T’s dress then stood up and started kissing her while M kissed her from behind. I turned T around so the girls could kiss properly while I removed M’s dress. We were then in a circle, the girls undressing me while they kissed and I removed their bras. Now online in our underwear, I led them to T’s bedroom.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I helped the girls out of their knickers and they fell on the bed, M on top of T kissing passionately. My sexual experience to date has been limited and vanilla; this was the first threescore I was involved in and of two girls together was a fantasy come true.
I quickly got down between their legs; M being shorter and on top meant I could go down on T while fingering both of them at the same time (took a bit of coordination but I was determined!). Their bodies and reactions were different (why sex with different people is always so exciting). Both girls were moaning, grinding their hips against each other, their juices running over my hands.
M was first to come, eyes closed while T asked her to explain what I was doing. As she approached her orgasm I sat up to concentrate on her, admiring her tiny arse. After she came I rolled the girls over. I could go down on M again while fingering them both. M then went down on T till she came and then fucked T. At that stage T wasn’t confident enough to share me but was ok with me doing everything to M other than intercourse.
Eventually, alcohol and the late hour got the better of us. M went home and we fell asleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was the highlight of my sexual life for many years, one of those “I never thought this would happen to me…” moments.
I hoped/tried to repeat it many times but life kept getting in the way. A couple of years later we did manage another hookup, this time including fucking but nothing compared to that first time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? As many of my mates as I could. I would’ve had a T shirt made if I’d thought of it. T was a fantastic partner, very brave and trying new things separately and together. My sex life is divided between before her and after her.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? 2 girls together. When they were first together on the bed, naked, kissing, their breasts pressed against each other, grinding their vaginas against each other, I just sat back soaking it all in; the memory is burned into my mind. Never seen anything so sensual or arousing.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not repeating it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It opened my eyes to a world of sexual possibilities
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? We’ve a long way to go sadly in seeing casual sex for what it is, an unequalled way for people to share physical pleasure with or without emotional intimacy. For women in particular I hate the derogatory terms that are used for females who enjoy sex and the pleasure their bodies can give them. I’ve had a passion and fascination with women and sex as far back as I can remember and even growing up in a very strict religious environment, I never understood the way women were talked about negatively for sexual behaviour. I’ve always found passionate, sensual women, interested in sex, comfortable with their bodies far the most interesting and attractive. I wish I’d discovered casual sex years/decades earlier.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it. Great way to get the message out that consensual casual sex is ok and that people of all races, genders, sexual orientations, ages all have similar interests and desires. A great place to learn and broaden horizons.
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