by Zoey

Gender: Female
Age: 21

Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Illinois
ighest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Bartender
Relationship status: Engaged
Religious affiliation: N/A
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Sexually Open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50-55
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Impressions

How long ago did this hookup happen? Two months

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night-stand that happened three times

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had no idea who Michael was the night that our mutual friend- my coworker introduced us. But he immediately caught my eye.
He was wearing a baseball cap and drinking a beer in my bar, and I had just gotten off work. He had long dark hair and the deepest, darkest brown eyes that I had ever seen. I was melting. He was tall, average build, and had an amazing sense of humor.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hook-up started at his house after a night of bar hopping. Him and my coworker were roommates so I was comfortable staying at his house.
I wanted Michael so bad, and the desire was amplified by the fact that I wouldn’t have him unless I pursued because I knew he wouldn’t make the first move. So, when all the lights were out I snuck upstairs and pretended I needed to use his lighter. He sat up and smoked with me. We talked for a while and insisted I sleep in his bed and he sleep on the couch since I was a guest. I insisted that he not give me his bed and then finally gave in. But convinced him I was too scared to sleep alone. Leaving no option but to sleep with me.
As soon as he laid back in bed, I curled up next to him and he kissed me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I’d like to say that I’m “experienced” so I’m set in my ways sexually. I’m loud, I talk dirty, I like my hair pulled. During the hookup– like most of them, he pretty much did whatever I guided him to do. Nothing too kinky as far as my view of kinky extends.

He felt amazing. I had multiple orgasms- I don’t think that he climaxed though. He was a great lover- I was actually really impressed for how young he was being that I usually only have encounters with older men.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We did not discuss any history. But we did wear a condom- I always wear condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Reasons?
Because I wanted to. Because I had this desire to satisfy this attraction I had towards him. Especially when he just went to bed without any words except goodnight. And because when I’m not pursued and I want something, it becomes a poisonous goal of mine to make sure that I get what I want.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We drank, but by the time I went upstairs I was sober, and he said he was as well.
Before I pursued him, we had drank a handful of beers.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up he was casual, I was casual. His roommate was infuriated and that created a very awkward and uncomfortable wedge between me and Michael in social situations afterwards. But on our own terms, we were fine.
I expected some unrealistic “I really like this guy maybe it could work out and become something”. Like I do with every hook up for a few days after.
Now, I wish we still had causal booty calls. But we fell out pretty hard after his friend kept causing drama about it.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my best friend. She wasn’t shocked- hook-ups are decently common news coming from me.
More shocked that it was with Garrett’s friend.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was for both of us. He verbalized it, and I felt the same way.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I do not.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing? Good sex.
The worst? The drama it caused.
This hookup made me really realize how promiscuous and callous I  really am after Michael and Garrett voiced their opinions on the situation. Mostly Garrett, my coworker. But I realized Michael’s feelings towards me when I hadn’t shown interest in his attempts to get to know me.
So all this hook up did was help me realize the title I’ve branded on my name.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

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