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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Washington, D.C.
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First MMM Threesome

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? R and J were a gay couple (long-term and committed, although I don’t think they were legally married) whom I met when they were visiting D.C. for the 2015 Pride weekend. I responded to a post they put on Craigslist looking for a man to join them for sex. I hadn’t met them or had any other contact before that. We exchanged a few emails and agreed to meet the next morning. I liked their photos and how non-pushy they were.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? They were staying at a hotel about a 15-minute walk from me. I agreed to meet them there at about 8 A.M. I asked for one of them to meet me outside and walk me up, rather than going to the room. This was both so that I was sure that I was in the right place and everything was OK, and also for the comfort level of meeting at least one of them outdoors and being able to walk away easily if something felt off. R met me on the sidewalk outside the hotel. He had a warm smile and relaxed manner and everything felt comfortable, so I went with him to their suite.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? J was in the shower when I arrived. R asked me if I’d like to shower as well. I didn’t think I needed to, but I agreed. R and I both undressed, and I joined J in the shower, with R following. J and I faced each other and began to kiss and touch. R stood behind me, caressing and washing my back and buttocks. As J and I kissed, R knelt behind me and started rimming me. It was hot.

After a few minutes, one of them suggested that we move to the bed. We toweled off and headed into the bedroom, with J going first. While he was still standing, I knelt in front of him and sucked his cock. R then said gently, “Let’s get you up.” He bent me over the bed and rimmed me again. It was something that he clearly loved doing, and it felt great.

After a while, we got on the bed. J sucked and stroked my cock until I came. He then masturbated and came. The three of us lay together talking and were touching for a while. They asked me about my life – work, whether I had a boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, or husband. They were kind and gentle and seemed genuinely interested. At that point, I wasn’t out in my professional life, so I was less forthcoming than I would be now.

When my cock got hard again, R asked me to sit on his face so that he could lick my anus again. I did, and he asked me to suck his cock at the same time. I love sucking cock and enjoyed doing that to him. I remember that he and I both came (the second time for me), although I don’t remember exactly how.

Afterward, they talked about their plans to attend the Pride parade. I got dressed, said goodbye and left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We’ve never had further contact, but it felt great. In retrospect, I wish I’d been more confident and asked to stay in touch. They were good lovers and although they weren’t from D.C., I’ve sometimes visited the city where they live. I really liked the experience would have enjoyed seeing them again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) J wanted to ejaculate on my body, and I asked him not to (which he respected).

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve told a few girlfriends who are turned on by sex between men. They thought it sounded hot.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? R and J were gentle, skilled, and attractive. The sex was hot and I felt a good deal of physical pleasure. I also enjoyed their bodies, especially sucking their cocks.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I would have liked to do more, particularly to have one of them fuck me. I would also have liked to stay in touch and regret that I didn’t ask to do so.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. I already identified as bisexual, and I’d done all of the things that we tried during this hookup.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? As a single man, I enjoyed casual sex as long as it was safe and I felt an emotional connection with the people involved. It was a lot of fun. I think that society should allow consenting adults to do what they wish with each other. With that said, this was a great encounter. Some people looking for hookups, especially men, are pushy or crude. Others have baggage and clearly aren’t ready for casual sex. It’s important to know one’s self and be sure that everything feels right.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I absolutely support research into human sexuality. It’s part of who we are, and we need to understand it!

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