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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 34
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? New Zealand
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Sales Rep
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Older Man

How long ago did this hookup happen? 15 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a nice looking guy. Clean cut. I had never met him before. We met at a bar that stays open all night till 8am. He came across as a really nice/kind guy.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Happened at a quiet bar. About 5am. It wasn’t planned. Someone else had approached me with a corny pick up line and I shot them down with a lie. I told him I was 30 with kids and a boyfriend at home. He left me alone.
The other guy came over and sat with me. I was on my own. He said he couldn’t believe I was 30 and had kids. I told him quietly that I had lied and in reality I was a single 19 year old with no kids and was just getting rid of the first guy. We talked for an hour or so and then he asked if I wanted to come to his place. I did. We walked there. It was about 7am and broad daylight. When we got to his house I couldn’t believe it because he lived next door to my first boyfriend whom I hadn’t broken up with earlier that year.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had sex and it felt amazing. He was very considerate, and he was a very good lover. He waited until I was ready to come before he came.
I thanked him and left close to lunch time. We swapped numbers.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had no expectations after. We had fun.
We did hook up again a couple of weeks later but that was it. I felt fine about it. Good experience.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Best friend/flat mate
Shocked but happy I had fun and was safe

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? No strings. Good experience with man 12 years my senior.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I had to walk to get a taxi

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It is my only casual sex with someone I did not already know. He ticked that box.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s great when people are open to new and fun experiences. No regrets.
No one should judge others for fulfilling wants, needs, desires and fantasies

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Brilliant

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