by Steven 13
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? South America
What country and/or city do you live in? Bogotá, colombia
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? College students
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Very first one-day stand
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 10 years older than me, he was a serious professional man who was just into casual sex, not looking for any relationship at all. We met at chatrandom.com . I was never sure about meeting him but wanted to give him a chance.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had been chatting for less than a month, but we had not met because I was dating someone else. When I broke up with my ex bf, I felt depressed and thought the best way to overcome that situation was by sex. I told him my history and he said he could help me with my “affair” that is when we met, in our first meeting we hooked up.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At first, I did not feel sure, but he led the whole encounter, he kissed me at first, he took my clothes off, he was very sweet. I never thought that having casual sex was that good, we stopped at moments to chat a bit about ourselves which made the situation not be that empty. There was anal sex, oral sex, 69 a moment, black kiss a moment, several positions. And eventually, He cummed. After that, we felt asleep hugged the whole afternoon. He was very sweet.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt terrible, I had always critized the people who had casual sex, I used to think that casual sex was for “sick” people. But, the times goes by, and I have seen casual sex helps us fill a human need. To have casual sex is not bad if we care about ourselves and use contraceptive methods.
I met up other times with this guy. Once, I asked him why we did not do anything else besides sex, which he told me “Do not get me wrong, this is just about sex” that hurted at that moment, but it helps me to grow and understand better the casual sex world.
Now, we are fuck friends and I do not want to be anything else with him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To most of my closest friends, they rejected me because this practice is not very accepted in my country. Besides, most of them see this behavior as a psychological problem. Even though, they told me to look for help.
On the other hand, the people who are into casual sex, too, they cheered me up. They were glad i did not have a first casual sex bad experience, but a good one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? Because I misunderstood my feeling with this guy.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was not that empty, we kissed, he treated me well and there was a good connection.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I had not had sex for more than a year and it hurted af lol
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it has. Because it was my very first time and I saw that I was sexy enough to fuck with someone, because I realized that love and sex are not necessarily bounded.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No all the first casual sex experiences are good. No all the people who you fuck with treated you well. But I was lucky.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is not that bad if you know how to handle it, always safe, no pressure, you are worth to fuck with someone good-looking, no someone who asks you to fuck at first without even any like or connection.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is a good website where you can express yourself, to learn about others´experiences, and give to people your own pieces of advice for them not to make your mistakes.
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